SAHM Filling my day?

Bitsy_Beans

I am not officially a SAHM but I am at home at the mo with the kids. Not sure how old your's are but mine are 11 months and nearly 4. As such fitting in everything else around the kids is my problem. I really don't have time to be bored (esp since youngest wants to walk ALL the time but can't do it on her own yet) so we spend a lot of time doing laps around the lounge.

If you're not happy to potter about, garden, bake etc then I guess SAHM lifestyle will probably be boring. My mum lives very close which is lovely so we do lots of things together. I also have friends with kids the same age but again when they are back at work meeting in the week isn't always possible.
Like the others have said is there a hobby you could get interested in? what sort of things do you like to do? Are you lonely rather than bored? SAHM can be solitary if all your friends etc work.

BilberryCharlotte

If you don`t want to be outside, for any reason, there is a website called Pogo where you can play all sorts of games (word games, card games, arcade & puzzles)

It is free to use, although you can become a member if you wish.
Pogo.com

thriftmonster

I don't know if I count as a SAHM anymore as I work 3 mornings from 9-12.30 but I'm at home th rest of the time. But the key is that OS is sort of built in anti- boredom. Tired of cleaning (always!!) - there's always something else - garden, washing, baking, cooking, sewing, knitting, preparing for winter, preserving, messing with the kids.

If they're not at school it can be a bit overwhelming, and mother and baby groups are good - most churches have one and they certainly don't require you to be a member

bellaquidsin

As an ex SAHM and now like JackieO a stay at home granny, I find echoes in Bitsy Beans post of how I have felt over the years i.e Lonely and isolated, not bored as there has always been too much to do. I have at various stages in my life done all the suggestions mentioned above and would turn my hand to decorating as well in the past.

I did one or two part time jobs on the way but to honest they had to go, because there was so much to do at home.

I used to feel that I was the last person on the planet doing all of this, but if I had had this forum years ago I would have felt much better, because it has been so refreshing to find that their are other people who do what I have done all my life.

DH has now been retired for three weeks and so far, although the pace of life has gone down a notch, we are finding enough to keep both of us from boredom and we haven't even started on the decorating yet.

Bella.

picklepick

Ooh just thought aswell, i sometimes go on a website called netmums.com You register in your area and theres a noticeboard of events coming up and lots of ideas for things to do with your kids. its brill

Boodle

Hi I'm not sure how you manage to find yourself bored, altho perhaps that depends on the age of your children or perhaps they are often taken out by grandparents and you find yourself at a loose end? The courses are a great idea but be careful you dont take on too much as there will most likely be a great deal of homework. I tried twice to take up part-time study (one course on each occasion) and just could not find the time to keep up with the work

My days tend to look a bit like this (obviouly the times are just "around-abouts"):

7:00 ish - Getting DD, baby and myself up, washed and dressed and seeing daddy off to work all takes about an hour.

8-9:00 - Making breakfast and eating breakfast with children (well, feeding the baby ) takes up about an hour, hour and a half. dd and I natter as we eat, you see - both of us have the chatterbox gene

9-12:00 - As DD plays, I play with her, feed the baby and sort out washing all in bits and pieces/tidy up/make beds etc when I can, which takes us to lunchtime. Now and again, instead of doing the washing, I pop on here... A couple of days a week we go to tots or a group. When the weather isn't so stifling, we often go for a walk from about 10:30/11 til lunchtime.

12-1:30 - Making lunch and eating it with DD takes up another hour and a half.

1:30-4:00 - I spend the afternoon playing with DD in between doing housework like the floors, dishwasher, and kitchen stuff. On nice days, she can play in the garden as I am usually working in the kitchen

3:30-4:45 - Prepare a teatime snack for DD and I usually grab a cuppa and some time on here.

4:45-5:45 - Go for a walk to meet OH from bus.

5:45 - 7 Make dinner and eat (another hour or so). Then we all sit and wind down together watching a bit of TV or listening to the radio and natter.

7-7:30 Get DD ready for bed and DH takes her up while I am usually feeding the baby or taking the opportunity to get a bit of knitting done.

All evening we chill out, doing any bits around the house that needs doing as I see it i.e. wiping down benches and loading dishwasher etc. I refuse to do any ironing sessions etc once DD is in bed. And it is usually an early night for me! It might seem boring to some but I love it - I am blessed to be able to spend my days with my beautiful daughters

pavlovs_dog

perhaps some of you might be interested in the 101 for 1001 project?

ubamother

Having been a full-time working mum and a SAHM both had their pros and cons. I found it wasn't the lack of physical things to do that bored me, but the lack of adult intellectual stimulation. When my boy was pre-school, regular meet ups with girlfriends at the park, at each other's houses for coffee etc. were easily arranged, but once the kids are at school and many parents go back to work in school-hours it's harder to keep that natural group together. I think even some SAHMs find it harder to keep those mum-friendships when the home routines change to fit school routines. The danger is, I think, that once your youngest doesn't cry (or even look round) when you go out, you've may have lost the girlfriend connections you had. (Do change the gender of this to suit - this is just how I found it). Do you know any SAHMs who have similar OS outlook - could you do something OSish together - shop/make/bake/craft/grow?

thriftlady_2

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

perhaps some of you might be interested in the 101 for 1001 project?

Thanks for posting the link PD. Very interesting idea;)

kippers

shazzle wrote: »

I too would love SAH....
I want to be Kippers " she signs" x

What a compliment, thank you