I'd love my boyfriend to propose!!

Sassa

Okay wise wedding people, I need your help here! How do I get my lovely boyfriend to propose to me, without actually asking him to!?!

We've been together for nearly 14 years, since we were at school! So we know we love each other (!) We live together and are very happy! We're talking about having children and moving to a big family house, but I'd just love to tie the knot first (in a money saving wedding of course!) I'd love to get married quickly really, I wouldn't want a long engagement (no need to after 14 years!)

How do I drop hints etc.. without being too obvious? Any pearls of wisdom, gratefully received.

Thank you!

Sassa

Pssst

It seems that you are in quite a committed and luvdup relationship and with talk of children and bigger houses in the air, i'm surprised that this has not automatically flowed through to marriage?

Do you think that your BF is marriage minded and if so,could you speculate as to why he has not yet proposed?

blonde36er

Why not propose to him

Otherwise, just wait for him to do it in his own good time (yes, 14 years is a long time but I'm guessing that you'll only be early 30s at most still)

The more I 'hinted' and made suggestions to my OH, the longer it was going to take for him to ask because he wanted to feel that he'd done it in his own time, and off his own bat, rather than feeling that he'd been pushed into it - and he made that quite clear. Imagine how much more exciting it will be when he surprises you with a sparkly x

davetrousers

Ask him, it is the 90s after all.........ooh hang on

val_84

I had this problem with mine. Didnt think I would ever get married especially after OHs parents divorced. I wasnt very subtle with my hints either. If we walked past a jewellary shop I pointed out exactly the type of ring I wanted and things like that.
Im also quite traditional in that I always wanted him to be the one who proposed. We bought a house last August and I thought I would have to wait ages but got a lovely surprise on Christmas Day.... Just let him know you want to get married, he will see sense eventually, you never know he might even be planning it already.
I always told my OH aswell that I wouldnt even consider having kids until I was married, I think Im more old fashioned than I realised :rolleyes:

Rikki

I agree with Val_84.

I would say you want to be married before you have children. I too prefer the old fashion way.
Its a nice way to seal your love before the children come along, turn every thing upside down and brighten up your lives.

bravobeastie

Yeah I think I was a bit of 'bull in a china shop' too with my hints.

I remember saying to him 'Its alright for me to have your child but you don't want me to have your name?'

Can't remember if this was said in jest or seriousness but this year will be our third wedding anniversary and we are very happy......honest


This was on Christmas Eve and at midnight he let me open the oversize box weighted down with batteries that he had been teasing me with all week. Inside was a lovely engagement ring. I think thats the only romantic thing he's ever done lol

b3nton

Most men are commitment averse

He most likely has had it mentioned a lot, but is probably scared to death/doesn't want such huge costs etc

Pssst

You girls frighten me.....dragging men to Ratners windows etc.

I'd advise the P not to propose and also,not to have children without being married.

Having said that,its obviously an issue and as such,i dont think it can be put off anymore.

You guys need to talk.

debtfreein4years

just broach it and ask if he ever wants to get married.

i did that with my oh last week even though id already started sorta planning with my mum. we had gone to see his gran and she thought we were married and he found that hysterical, when we got home i asked him why he had found it so funny and did he not want to get married. he said he did and asked when i saw myself getting married. i told him in the next couple of years and he said he would marry me. i left it at that and then the next day he asked should we tell our parents.

not very romantic especially when i had to pick and buy my own ring!!! ok i choose it and transfered the money from his account as he has gone to work for 3 months now

gxx

seadee

If you are talking about having kids, have you casually said"Maybe it would be nice to be married first?" and see what his response is?