Son nearly 2 and still not talking

nikki702

Please dont worry about your son... my daughter was the same... she is now 4

She couldnt walk or talk... she used to shuffle on her bum until she was about 2 and 2 months

She also had to have hearing tests loads of them and went to speech and language groups (1 day a week for 6 weeks) she still didnt talk and everyone was making comments about my parenting ... I should play more with her take her out to here and there... Like it was my fault!!!!

She could say mum and da but nothing else.

When she started nursery @ 3 and lacked confidence playing with the other children as they could all talk to each other and she couldnt. She started slowly improving and attends a small language group within her nursery.

She can chat away now but still cant pronounce certain letters (s,f,v) she replaces most of them with a d.

The hearing tests have all come back fine, and hopefully she will master her difficult letters soon

angelicmary85

missm29 wrote: »

I met with a nursery teacher who said they put jam on the childrens faces and get them to lick it off, exercise for the tongue and mouth, she said it helps with their speech, i thought she was quite odd and he never went to that nursery.

I'm not sure but I think she may has been right. I watched an episode of supernanny (and no, I don't believe everything she says!! :rolleyes:) where she told the parents of 3year old twins that their diet wasn't exercising their jaws enough so that's why they were slightly behind with their speech so there may be some truth in what the teacher said.

jellyhead

I was told the same when my baby was 7 months old - health visitors said he should be on lumpy foods by now, and wasn't exercising the correct muscles for speech. My boys were both late weaners, and late talkers.

jellyhead

love2shopforbargains wrote: »

p.s. just had another dig from my mother about my parenting. I just said well these are my kids and it is upto me on how they are brought up, thanks for your advice, but I am going to do things the way I think are best. She then said they door had went and had to hang up and answer it.

Good for you!

Perhaps you should offer to arrange a meeting with the health visitor or doctor, so they can explain to your mum that you're doing nothing 'wrong'.

myrnahaz

My DIL was really upset because her health visitor told her that DGS wasn't babbling 'properly' at 6 months old (he actually said 'mum' today aged 8 mths), and I know I shouldn't have gone against the 'experts', but I explained to her that baby's dad and granddad were both late talkers, and they're both really quite intelligent men, so it didn't harm them (MIL said my DH was a deep thinker, lol!).
My DS could walk unaided at 9 and a half months, and was out of nappies (day and night) at 22 months, but he wasn't talking in legible sentences until he was nearly 4. He'd actually learned to ride a two-wheeled bike without stabilisers when he was in nursery aged 3 but he couldn't tell us because he couldn't talk, he just kept pointing to his stabilisers and saying 'no!' - so my DH took the stabilisers off and told DS 'don't come crying to me when you fall off' - but DS jumped on the bike and rode off up the garden like a pro!

Just because a child is a bit late doing something doesn't always mean there's a problem. The clinic never commented on his lack of speech (he wasn't mute, just lazy, he'd say things like 'mum, more' or 'go out', and accompany the words with a gesture). As long as problems have been ruled out (Tongue tie or deafness, etc) then I wouldn't worry too much.

aligerdie

my dd2 has had development problems, she is 2 and a half now and isn't walking yet and has only just started making noises.
She has speech and language therapy, physiotherapy (because one of her feet turns in), and weekly portage.

You know your child. If you believe there is something up, don't be afraid to speak up, simply just to rule things out for your peace of mind.

Is there a portage scheme in your area? I have found our portage worker an absolute godsend. Since dd2 started seeing her, she has really progressed. They help your little one develop through play, and it works.

There is so much help out there for you, but I didn't get it until I found a health visitor who was prepared to listen to me and not make me feel like it was my fault. I now know it isn't my fault at all.

Unfortunately now my dd is being assessed for behavioural problems, which is heartbreaking because she's a very intelligent, loving little girl.

Good luck, and don't be afraid to speak out.

lex

Hi there,

Another vote for baby signing here! DD started about the age of 1 and was a very early talker. She could already say a few words when she started.
DS however is not an early talker! I have been a little concerned about him, but he has just recently started to try a bit harder. He however has a number of signs that he uses, which eases frustration greatly as he knows how to communicate and knows he can use it for his benefit. He signs words such as more, food, milk, all gone, cat, donkey, pig, book, bird etc.
We use Baby Signing as opposed to Makaton but we also have made up our own signs, or adapted signs as needed. If you try it - just start with one or two signs - the most useful for us were more and all gone. Here's a link to a few signs, but I've seen better sites before. http://www.babysigners.co.uk/i2.php?pg=140

As for the tongue tie, DD has a tongue tie - if you ask her to stick her tongue out it doesn't reach beyond the end of her mouth and the edge of her tongue appears quite forked. She was the one who didn't have any problems talking. She was referred to the hospital regarding the tongue tie and they asked if she was eating and drinking properly and when we said yes, asked what our problem was then! They said they'd only look at it if she was having speech problems from around the age of 3 upwards.

Don't panic! It sounds like you are doing a good job, chattering to him. People used to look at me like I was nuts walking round the supermarket talking to DD. "right now we need a pepper, let's have this pepper, can you say pepper etc etc".

lex

plumpplop

Hi There

Please don't worry I am sure things will be fine. Have you tried Makaton it can help him with his frustration over communication, but always say the word as you sign it so he gets both.

The mention of Albert Einstein reminded me of the whole story as i heard it. Apparently he was nearly 5 when he spoke and his first words were "this soup is cold".(!!!!)

When asked why he had not spoken before he said "everything until now has been satisfactory".

Not sure if its true but its a good story.

You sound like an excellent Mum, keep up the good work.

love2shopforbargains

Thanks again to all those who have contributed. It really means a lot to know that others think that I am a good parent as when the actual adults that I talk think I am doing most things wrong it gets quite draining.

Thanks again

Kelinik

skintchick wrote: »

I don;t know about the speaking, but I didn;t walk or crawl till I was 2 (skipped the crawling and went straight from bum shuffling to walking) and there's nothing wrong with me!

I was about to mention this, my eldest was 22 months before she walked and my youngest 26 months!! Both were bottom shufflers and in my experience the bubs who shuffle instead of crawl do seem to be much later walking. Wish I'd known this years ago as I worried myself sick thinking it must be something I'd done wrong! Hubby and I have always joked if we had another it'd be crawling at 6 months and walking at 9 just to confuse us!!