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Soubrette

Your ex sounds very strange wen1 - he doesn't want to pay child maintenance yet continues to pay mortgage and school fees.

He doesn't really seem to care about seeing them but is prepared to go to court to try and maintain access.

It must be very confusing for you

Sou

pen1206

thanks for you ideas We have asked them why they do not want to go, all she wants to do with them is take them visiting and as you can imagine at 14 12 and 10 this can become very boring. as it was one of the childrens birthdays she was offered to pick him up for the day but she declined as you imagine trying to get them to go over this weekend was a non starter. After threatening and verbal abuse by NRP on our doorstep in front of the children we have to do most things through solicitors or letters sad i know but we don't like the children seeing this behaviour. All we can do is keep encouraging the children to go over.

Soubrette

pen1411 wrote: »

thanks for you ideas We have asked them why they do not want to go, all she wants to do with them is take them visiting and as you can imagine at 14 12 and 10 this can become very boring. as it was one of the childrens birthdays she was offered to pick him up for the day but she declined as you imagine trying to get them to go over this weekend was a non starter. After threatening and verbal abuse by NRP on our doorstep in front of the children we have to do most things through solicitors or letters sad i know but we don't like the children seeing this behaviour. All we can do is keep encouraging the children to go over.

Some people are just their own worst enemy pen

Perhaps you should try and reassure the children that the NRP loves them very much even if she hates you and your partner.

The trouble is that kids are very quick to pick up when someone wants everything on their own terms - they notice when people can't be bothered or if they, the children, are a low priority in a parent's life.

I think family counselling for the children and NRP could be the way forward - could you suggest this to the NRP in a letter? I suggested to my ex and he said it was a good idea which he had already though of (:rolleyes:) and he'd look into it - that was abot 6 months ago :rolleyes::rolleyes:

As I said, keep us posted, I'm always looking for ideas to improve things between my daughter and her Dad.

Sou