How much do you spend on a neice/nephew's wedding present?

kr15snw

Im planning on spending up to £100 max on my brother! And we're not tight! Lol.

We are very close to our neice (well shes only 3 at the moment), but I wouldnt spend about £50 on her.

But it depends how close you are. An example would be we gave my cousin £20 recently (only see at weddings and funerals), wheras we gave my OH's cousin £30 and did his wedding filming / made a dvd out of it (see them very often).

wishiwasarichgirl

I don't have any nieces or nephew yet but I know mum gives nieces/nephews £200 either in cash or gift value off a gift list, this is from her and dad (and they have 27 nieces & nephews!).

She feels that if you are attending the wedding you should at least give enough to cover the cost of your meals, if you are not going to the wedding, or just to the evening do you could give something smaller/less.

For friends I generally spend £50-£80, for my brother who is getting married this year I have just spent £200.

Of course everyones circumstances are different and at the end of the day it comes down to what YOU can afford, not just for this wedding, but for the other 19 as well!

Sunny_Saver

I think it's rude to expect those big ticket gifts off relatives... Just because you are a relative does not mean you are close.

My OH's cousin is getting married, we're spending about £200 on train fares/hotel/cab to get there. This is for someone he's seen once in five years... and never speaks to on phone/email (and they live in same town) and we have spent £50 on his present: something off his gift list (which asked for a £40 toilet brush). A total of £250 so far, not including outfits and the fact that we have to pay for our own drinks when we get there.

So I'm annoyed: it would be different if it was for someone he was close to, but he's not. Basically if it's going to make you cross and you're going to think about it and it will bother you, don't do it.

Do whatever you can afford and that you can live with.

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I got married last year - £200 to £300 was the norm for aunts and uncles. Other than my mum's sister, who bought 5 people (aunt, uncle, 2 cousins + boyfriend) to a meal that cost us £95 a year - and gave £30.

My mum only just got back on speaking terms with her sister

sethsgran

How sad it is that we fall out over what should be a family celebration. We have an extended family member who has left each/all of my childrens wedding in a sulk! Any reason and woosh off they go.

floss2

booklover wrote: »

Hello everyone

As in the title. My husband wants to spent about £250 on his nephew who is getiing married soon. but we cant afford this. Also we have 20 nieces and nephews from 2-24 so what we do for 1 we have to continue for the others.

They have a wedding list ans expect items eg. good dishwasher, plasma tv or American fridge freezer from us (aunts or uncles).......

Would you like to be my Aunty & Uncle?

Seriously, I would not expect to pay anything like that for our neices or nephews, and personally I regard their list as just plain greedy.

SugarSpun

We got married two months ago, and about 50 was the absolute maximum from relatives.

Actually, one cousin spent a little bit more by buying a bunch of small things from the list, but nowhere near 250 and certainly no big ticket items. We had a Dyson on the register, but that was mainly because we expected that some friends would want to throw money in a pot and go in on something together. Still waiting for my Dyson, but it was a "would be nice" gift and not at all something I'd expected.

full-time-mum

Surely the whole point of a wedding is to declare, amongst friends and family, that 2 people are in love and want to spend the rest of the life together. If the couple can afford and have chosen to spend £95/head then that is up to them. It shouldn't mean that the guest is expected to fork out at least that to say 'thank you'.
Whatever happened to your presence and not your presents are requested?

Anyone I invited to my wedding, I wanted to be there to celebrate with me, not because I wanted to bankrupt them by expecting expensive gifts.
We didn't expect gifts from anyone.

One of my favourites was a black & white photo taken by a college friend. It was near where we went to Uni and our group had shared many a pleasant afternoon there. I was declared it my favourite ever beach and I was touched that he remembered and had gone to the trouble of taking the picture, printing and framing it.

I'm sick of this me, me, me material world.

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ladypinkof66

My nephew is 16 very soon and I will be giving him £100 for his birthday, I am lucky in that I only have 3 nephews and 1 niece on my side and to be honest I would probably buy a gift for around £200 ish, I am very close to all of them and see them at least every few weeks, however if you rarely see your nephew and do have 20 odd nieces and nephews then yes spending £250 would be a bit much as the others will surely all expect a gift of a similar value, I would buy what you can afford you can get nice gifts even for a small amout of money.