Hen do etiquette...

mshelsbels

Hi there,
Some advice needed re hen night. Just wondered if you only invite ladies who are invited to your wedding, or can you invite others too?
Reason I ask is that we're having a relatively small wedding (50) with no evening reception, and as a result cant invite all our friends. There are a few girls I have nights out with who wont be coming to the wedding, but who I know would love a hen night!
Is this the norm do you think?

Cheers,
Hels

Sammy_Girl

Oooh, tricky one. There are 15 of us coming on my hen do and they're all invited to the wedding. However there was another girl who i invited to the hen do who can't come as she is on holiday. She then sent me en email saying that she'll def come to the wedding. Ooops, I hadn't actually planned on inviting her to the wedding!!! When I thought about it afterwards, I could see how because she was invited to the hen do, she assumed thats she would be invited to the wedding. TBH, I would prob think the same!

I guess just make it clear from the start that you're tight on numbers for the wedding - but that you would love to celebrate the hen do with them.

sunshinejoclaire

I have a girl coming to mine who I don't actually know very well (shes a friend of one of my besties), and I haven't invited her to the wedding.

Sparkle80

I've only invited people to the Hen do that I'm inviting to the wedding. I guess it all depends on what size of wedding you're having.

Like an earlier posters friend had assumed, I would think I was going to be invited to the wedding if I was asked to the hen do.

nat82

Theres a few of us from work been invited to a hen do and I've just found out that none of us are invited to the wedding!

xxx

aimee21j

I am only going to invite people I am inviting to the wedding. I don't think it's fair otherwise.

gill_81uk

Most of mine are coming to the wedding, but there is one who is only coming to the evening do

kelda_shelton

when you guys say wedding to you mean all day or evening reception?

rinroo

The only girls coming to my hen party will be those that will be invited to the wedding.

I've never been to a hen party and not been to the wedding, apart from my friends last year but she got married in Antigua.

If you make it clear, or perhaps they already know? that your wedding is only small and they are not coming, then I guess why not!

Horace

My friend is having a hen do forced upon her by her ex work colleagues - none of whom have been invited to her wedding (she is getting married abroad), they also haven't been invited to her reception (in England). My friend isn't a hen do type of person - she has always hated them, she much prefers to spend time with friends just chilling:D

So, you dont actually have to have a hen do if you don't want one.

roxalana

I don't think there is anything wrong with inviting people not invited to the wedding to the hen do. You would have ot let them know that they aren't coming to the wedding though.

Perhaps put in the invites about having a small wedding and that although you are not able to invite them to the day, you would still like to celebrate with them at your hen do if they would like to come - or if you're not having invites just say this!