PPI forum - non PPI discussion thread

kpwll

Hi everyone,
Been having loads of probs with my phone line which led to my broadband going down and me having to use .................DIAL-UP. So it's been quick visits and nowt else.
Di, I'm so sorry that you have this extra worry now, maybe your Mum is frightened at the thought of having him home where there is no constant medical coverage. She could even be afraid that she might not have him for long if there is no-one trained there. Has anyone broached this with your mother? I know I tend to shy away (if possible) from things that I'm frightened of until pushed and then they're usually not as bad as expected. I hope you don't think I've been too personal with this, if you do, please accept my apologies.
How are other things on the home front, has hubby started work yet? I hope so as that will be 1 less thing to worry about.
I hope everyone else is doing well and enjoying the late taste of summer we're having.
Karen x

marshallka

Di, have you all visited your Dad more whilst in hospital than you would normally perhaps. I wonder if your mum enjoyed seeing the "family" more and not being left to cope on her own. Perhaps you could all (being a large family) do a day each or something. Otherwise its a big workload. I know you help on here most of the time and also have your own family but maybe she is really wanting more help with your dad perhaps?? Maybe she is scared of having all the responsibilty herself. I know that when things like this happen in families its a hard job to do on your own. I realise that some of your family actually work full time but you could all perhaps do a rota or the ones that do not work could put in some part time helping your mum making it priority if only to just be there.

Just noting the time you made this post also and you were still up on the computer at that time and then having to teach your son at home as well which is a full time job but maybe as hubby is not working he could do the helping with your son and you could perhaps help with your dad. I am not being personal here either but just trying to look from the outside in and trying to help and hope you see it that way too. These kind of problems are ones that lots of peope have to face in life and there are ways other than hospitals and care homes if everyone does their bit. Hope you get it sorted.

maxdp

Di think you are running yourself ragged here. Probably it is difficult to accept that your mum prefers dad in hospital and you may feel angry or let down by that. Perhaps for your mum it must be a weight off her mind because she knows he is safe and it must in some ways take a huge weight of her shoulders. Your mum is not young and as you know it is very difficult being a full time carer. Perhaps this is her cry for help?

I know you have other problems and do not know how things are with them and hope things are not too critical.

I was a carer for 15 years with my ex husband he had ME and I was working full time and having him on the phone a lot because he felt so ill. I then had my two children and stayed at home for 2 years and trying to look after him and 2 babies was hard. I then started working nights nursing to try to get some money could only sleep a couple of hours in the day and in the end was at the end of my tether. That was really why we separated I could not give to the kids and look after him as well as work nights. I could not cope. Although my family knew the situation I just got on with it really and would not ask for help because of my pride.

My point here really is that this may be the crisis point and your mum is asking for help. I don't know the answer for you but can see by your post that things have got to crisis point for you as well.

Sending you lots of love and really feel for you.xxx

di3004

Thank you all for your lovely messages and pm's.:A

I am feeling better today thank you.

I think its just a mixed thing of everyone getting stressed out, and there have been a few family quibbles here and there, which have not helped.

And of course I know changes as well can be an issue.

Been making arrangements with my inlaw so my youngest has a few days at the farm as well, so I can recharge those batteries.;)

Thanks all and hope your all well.:AXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

pinknico

Always here for you Di, take one day at a time and make sure you say what is on your mind, dont bottle it up.xx

dialysis

di3004 wrote: »

Thank you all for your lovely messages and pm's.:A

I am feeling better today thank you.

I think its just a mixed thing of everyone getting stressed out, and there have been a few family quibbles here and there, which have not helped.

And of course I know changes as well can be an issue.

Been making arrangements with my inlaw so my youngest has a few days at the farm as well, so I can recharge those batteries.;)

Thanks all and hope your all well.:AXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hi Hun I think I have missed something somewhere hope you are ok hun so sorry Di if things arnt working out hun take care of yourself.;) Thinking of you xxxx

maxdp

dialysis wrote: »

Hi Hun I think I have missed something somewhere hope you are ok hun so sorry Di if things arnt working out hun take care of yourself.;) Thinking of you xxxx

Hi Dialysis

Di Posted last night but has deleted the post today. Am sure she will explain why.

dialysis

maxdp wrote: »

Hi Dialysis

Di Posted last night but has deleted the post today. Am sure she will explain why.

Thanks Max Hope she is OK

di3004

Hi everyone

Sorry I have not posted since earlier, thank you all for your lovely words.

I deleted my post as I feel I mentioned some personal issues and did not want to offend any of my family members in case it was taken the wrong way by them sort of thing.

But not to worry I am fine, got my head together this afternoon, Uncle been here as well working with my son, so had a little time to myself.;)

I think the air is cleared now, fingers crossed.

I was glad to get it off my chest though, so thanks for listening, you are all wonderful, and again sorry for my rant.......:o.

Hope your all okay and had a lovely day.:A:A:A:A:A

Di
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dialysis

di3004 wrote: »

Hi everyone

Sorry I have not posted since earlier, thank you all for your lovely words.

I deleted my post as I feel I mentioned some personal issues and did not want to offend any of my family members in case it was taken the wrong way by them sort of thing.

But not to worry I am fine, got my head together this afternoon, Uncle been here as well working with my son, so had a little time to myself.;)

I think the air is cleared now, fingers crossed.

I was glad to get it off my chest though, so thanks for listening, you are all wonderful, and again sorry for my rant.......:o.

Hope your all okay and had a lovely day.:A:A:A:A:A

Di
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Hi Di welcome back hun so nice to hear you feel a bit better it does you good to have a good rant hun feel free to do it anytime. I think the thing about a good rant is that when you are typing a good rant you type faster dont you think, but then when you look at it there are so many spelling mistakes, and you cant read what you have written. Also you bang the keys down. I am suprised my keyboard is still working as I have ranted that much lately.:rotfl::rotfl: