residential street parking enquiry

DON79

Neil_B wrote: »

yep that just about sums it up. I confess i failed to notice you didn't describe them as 'neighbours' but 'other residents'.

be an adult and talk. The world would be a better place if we did. Don't presume a bad reaction cos so far you are looking like nothing like the kind of neighbour I would like! Who exactly is at fault?
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I am looking like not the kind of neighbour you would like - really! and what have I done wrong to deserve that label exactly? I haven't parked inconsiderately, I haven't left them a nasty note, I haven't vandalised their car or chucked things at it and I haven't given them verbal abuse in the street which is what some people would resort to straight away.

All I have done is came and asked for advice on the best way to approach matters. At least I am not jumping straight in there and doing any of the above things.

I am certainly not at fault in any way.

Neil_B

Yeah but you did thank the suggestions of childish and conflict inducing action.

DON79

awwww! are you miffed cos you didn't get a thank you! here you go honey!

it's polite to thank people when they do offer some advice rather than just instant and antagonistic criticism which is what you did.

maybe you could act like a human being and talk to them??

Makes me wonder why you ask the question of the world that should be directed at them? Are they 'neighbours' or strangers fom some alien planet?
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Grrrrrrrrr!

perhaps you need to learn to phrase things in a more constructive helpful manner in order to get the deserved thanks.

xxlaurissaxx

My mum had this problem so she spoke to the neighbours that were affected and they painted parking spaces with their door numbers in each. Now everyone knows whos space is whos and they wont park in each others.

Hope you get it sorted.

xx

Neil_B

DON79 wrote: »

awwww! are you miffed cos you didn't get a thank you! here you go honey!

it's polite to thank people when they do offer some advice rather than just instant and antagonistic criticism which is what you did.



perhaps you need to learn to phrase things in a more constructive helpful manner in order to get the deserved thanks.

LOL. yeah i say what I think --- and honestly. No I don't need the thanks but you thanked some really stooopid and childish suggestions that could have caused conflict, got you a police FPN or Council PCN, depending where you are or damage to your car. Get real. What is really the best way forward? - and yet you dismiss it through presumption.

grow up!

DON79

just because I said thank you does not mean that I would follow the course of action which was mentioned.

I pointed out as others did before me that you can't even talk to people in this day without them potentially taking it the wrong way. Even if I did try talk reasonably to this person, they could take offence anyway no matter how reasonable I was.

As I have not yet decided on the best course of action, I am prepared to wait and see if they continue to park this way and then decide. I did not categorically "dismiss" your suggestion to talk to them, rather the way you worded your "suggestion" was off-putting and quite rude/insulting which was completely unnecessary.

Neil_B

I concede i can be curt and direct - but well intentioned.
It is intended to help you resolve it! I stiil think you are making presumptions about the neighbours and one thing that struck me - just a few doors away and you don't know them? That told me a lot - and perhaps reflective of this Country and maybe the world?

You don't have any right to park so it acn only be resolved by other means. I'm glad you are on the way to realising the other suggestions were rather irresponsible.

approaching people? I take your point but depends how you do it!
i'm quite diminutive but had no problem putting a huge neighbour and his two mates in their place when they were revving a car outside my bedroom window at 3.30 am.

DON79

presumptions! ok - so in your first post you presumed that I would be blocking their drive or parking up behind them in reprisal,

you presumed that I thought the suggestions made above about blocking drives/parking close were reasonable

then you presumed that I am incapable of acting like a human being and talking reasonably,

then you insult me by telling me that I am nothing like the kind of neighbour you would like (even though you know nothing about me, you were making a presumption yourself about the kind of person I am).

How well do you know the people who live about six doors away from you?

I am on good terms with immediate neighbours who live either side and even two doors away - they live six doors away, it is not as though I see them every day coming in and out of their house unlike my immediate neighbours.

Of course now that they have decided it is nicer to park in front of my house than on their own driveway, maybe I can just say hello everyday and thank them at the same time for taking up an additional parking space which they have no need of. :rolleyes:

Neil_B

you are good entertainment value at least!

yeah i presume what you are like from your posts.

my presumptions - no i was referring to your one that the neighbours would react badly to a civilised adult, constructive and assertive approach.

Ya know the solution then ! Presuming (oooh look, I did this time) you don't thionk you own the road - BUY IT!!

neighbours - yeah but a bit too long a list - names families, professions, interests - wouldn't fit on the page.

--- and one of the beggers has parked straight across the front of my house today!!!! LOL. bless.

DON79

Another thought that did come to mind is that since this person does have a driveway - they likely will have told their insurance company that the vehicle is kept on the driveway when they are at home and overnight.

Since they are not keeping it on their driveway either overnight or for the whole weekend for that matter, surely they are invalidating their own insurance so that if some damage did occur, they would not be covered under the terms of their insurance.

Just another reason to give them to use their driveway perhaps?