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ex is ruining my chances of selling

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  • SelenaLouise
    SelenaLouise Posts: 144 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Wow I really feel for your situation but agree with the others that you should only be paying your half of the mortgage and nothing else.

    Partying, people sleeping on the floor and keeping the place a mess while still taking your money!! What a slap in the face!! Your ex sounds like the brat from hell.

    1. Change payments to mortgage only
    2. Try to speak/reason with him one last time
    3. Get onto a solicitor

    Good luck!
  • nrsql
    nrsql Posts: 1,925 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    You need to give him a reason to want the sale.
    At the moment he has sole occupancy of a house for which he only pays half and gets more subsidised. He also has a free cleaner coming in weekly.
    Why would he want to move and presumably pay more for a smaller place?

    Sorry if that sounds harsh but...
  • DKLS
    DKLS Posts: 13,461 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    Been there and done this, Get yourself a solicitor, not a meek one like my first who after spending 2K, could only recommend mediation!!! sod that, you need the female solicitor I hired, a pitbull with PMT she destroyed my ex and the end result the house was sold.
  • desperategirl
    desperategirl Posts: 8 Forumite
    He's not able to take the mortgage on himself - I have already looked into that one.

    I am really appreciating all of the advice though - looks like I will have to get tougher with him and take serious legal advice. I'm just desperate not to just hand the keys back as if the flat went up for auction I imagine I would be saddled with the shortfall.
  • princessamy86
    princessamy86 Posts: 4,889 Forumite
    Don't let yourself get saddled with anything! Joint mortgage=joint responsibility he just sounds like a lazy bum who is happy to let you continue to sort his life out! Sounds like you'll be well rid when it finally happens. Good luck.
    Scar tissue that I wish you saw, sarcastic mister know it all, close your eyes and I'll kiss you cause with the birds I'll share this lonely view.
  • eileenfromplaistow
    eileenfromplaistow Posts: 559 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 500 Posts Combo Breaker
    Please make sure none of the bills are in your name. Then when your ex stops paying them (because you are only paying your half of the mortgage) you can't be chased for them.
    Hope the house gets sorted quickly for your sake.
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    desperategirl wrote: »
    He's not able to take the mortgage on himself - I have already looked into that one.


    Well get him out NOW!

    Stern nasty evil solicitor needed to sort him out.
  • princessamy86
    princessamy86 Posts: 4,889 Forumite
    Shame all the MSErs can't pay him a visit...knock knock...(slightly scared bloked answers door) to find loads of MSErs being menacing on the doorstep! Soon have him out for you hun! Hope you get your legal advice sorted soon, very good point from eileen about bills
    Scar tissue that I wish you saw, sarcastic mister know it all, close your eyes and I'll kiss you cause with the birds I'll share this lonely view.
  • SmallEnglish
    SmallEnglish Posts: 74 Forumite
    DKLS wrote: »
    sod that, you need the female solicitor I hired, a pitbull with PMT she destroyed my ex and the end result the house was sold.

    Ha, I wondered if we had the same one!
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    princessamy86 wrote: »
    Shame all the MSErs can't pay him a visit...knock knock...(slightly scared bloked answers door) to find loads of MSErs being menacing on the doorstep! Soon have him out for you huns!

    LOL That'd be fun.
    :)
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