Excuse for not going to a wedding

Horace

Why not go on your own and say that your partner can't go.

woohoo_postingid

Is it possible that this is an olive branch being handed out by the brother ? Personally, I think your partner will regret it if he doesn't go. Maybe not immediately, but at some point during his life.

My advice would be to go, try to have a good time and maybe look to start afresh.

DKLS

Just be truthful and tell them you would rather gnaw your own legs off than attend.

Tigerlilley1980

I would just be honest. Tell them that due to work commitments you won't be able to make it. Alternatively say you will only be able to make the ceremony and due to work commitments can't stay any later. Tiger x

ceebeeby

... go!

It's only one weekend out of your life!!!

Be nausiatingly lovely to everyone, try and enjoy yourself and make BIL's wedding day special. Sometimes the things I dread most, turn out to be the best times ever!

Pssst

Didnt read the full follow on.

IMHO there are times when we have to do things we dont like to do and make the best of the situation.

It IS his brother whos getting married so why not just attend for the wedding and reception and then go home?

I think that not to attend would be damaging in the long term and would do neither parties any good.

kazwookie

1 hour each way, go to the main bit and then say bye to everyone and leave, saying you are back off to work, 1 hour drive home.

Job done, everyone happy as you have turned up done your bit and gone. End off.

I don't understand why you HAVE to book a hotel for 2 days when you are only 1 hour away.

ema_o

Piggles12345 wrote: »

But we won't know about work commitments until closer to the time, by which point we will have booked the hotel and given a deposit!

Will your OH's parernts know that you don't know about work commitments? If not this seems to me to be the best excuse for not staying over (I think 2 nights sounds excessive anyway if it is an hour away!).
If this was me I would do my best to make it to the ceremony and the reception but not stay over. Not because of the in laws but more in case as other people have said in case his bro does really want him there and to help build bridges between them... depends why they don't get on though

Piggles12345

lindsey_toffee_girl wrote: »

Can you not just tell them you will attend the wedding but you cannot afford to stay over and you have to be back home for work commitments etc

We have told them that we can't afford to stay for 2 nights. So they have paid for our 2 night stay for us :eek: .

This also means that they KNOW that the hotel is booked!!

Piggles12345

markelock wrote: »

you could just say you'd booked the hotel? no-one would be able to check you hadn't.

are you keeping the in-laws happy because of inheritance?

would they be offended if you just said, (and when I say you, I mean him) "we just don't get on"?

We have tried this!! His parents are very 'family' orientated- it's like the flippin Mitchell's on Eastenders!! Unfortunately, they don't think that not getting on together is a reasonable excuse for missing your brothers wedding!

And no, we are not keeping them on-side because of inheritance. We really like and get on with his parents and don't want to upset them at all.