I have just uninvited my brothers

lch_2

This is more than a problem of whether or not to invite your bothers to your wedding. This is very serious and you are obviously right to be worried. Your mum needs help coping with all this. There are support groups out there, maybe you can convince her to call someone, even if its just to talk it through. I'm sure she doesn't want to miss your wedding, but it sounds like she feels trapped in this situation. She's tried to hide it and hope things improve, but it situations like this, i think outside help may be needed. You have done the right thing, to have your brothers at your wedding would only stress you out. Concentrate and doing what is right for you and your mum. Tell her you want her there. Be honest and where necessary tell her the harsh truths, but be supportive. It sounds like she is fighting a losing battle. Having your support and having everything out in the open may really help.

Stick with your decision, be the strong one.

Good luck, for the wedding day and more.

Poppy9

~Sorry but forget the wedding your family need help. There should be some support groups for drug addicts and their family. You can also contact Social Services as your mother is vunerable and they can provide support and help.

Do nothing is not an option and whether they come to your wedding is immaterial. Your brothers are addicts and are behaving in such a manner because they are addicts. Your mother's life could be in danger. I know it sounds dramatic but if a drug addict gets desperate they could cross the line.

Cazza

Just wanted to send you a hug OP, that's such a horrible situation to be in. X

Mrs_Huggett

Seashellshel, my heart goes out to you, and your poor mum, is there no one in the family that can stay with your mum while she sorts all this out, or maybe a close friend who could at least house sit for the day while she attend your wedding? If your brothers are adults then she is entitled by law to ask them to leave her home, the police may have to become involved if they refuse to leave. Hollydays I am sure that the "pedants" will be aware of the fact that cannabis is not a class A drug, but nonetheless it can destroy peoples lives.

hollydays

As I stated Mrs Huggett,it very nearly destroyed the life of someone very close to me,so I am talking from experience.

Hugs to the OP too.x

Heres a link to search for support groups in your area.
http://www.talktofrank.com/multimap.aspx?id=278

Your Mum,and all your Family need to wise up pretty quickly to what exactly they are dealing with.I wish you lots of love and luck.

Becsam_2

:easter: Hi There Seashell,
I have read your story and I am so sorry you have found yourself in this awful situation especially as this is such a special time for you. It should just be about planning your wedding and looking forward to the big day not having to cope with all this!
The only advice I can offer is this is your time not anyone else's, I don't know if this is your Ist marriage but this could be your Mum's only chance to see you get married, to be there on her daughters precious day. It sounds to me that your Mum puts up with enough every other day of the year from your brothers but this is one day when you should come first and I believe your Mum should be there with you.
I realise she is worried about the house but if she goes out to the doctors, shopping etc it shows she is able to leave there sometimes.
I don't think now is the time to go into what should be done about your Mum's situation and what to do about your brothers because that is not the issue here. In this instance your happiness should come first, ignore the trouble makers and concentrate on your big day. Please explain how you feel to your Mum and tell her you want her by your side at your wedding. At the end of the day when we get older it is memories you are left with and this is the perfect occasion to make some very special one's for you and your Mum.
I wish you all the luck in the world, keep smiling and let us know how it all goes.
:smileyhea Lots Of Love & Hugs Becky & Sam xxxx

mrshaigh2b1987

I just wanted to let you know that i feel for you and your mum being in this situation. by the sounds of it she needs help to help your brothers. hope it all gets sorted hun!

Terri x