advice needed catholic church

sandeevie

Hi I am a catholic and go to church but sorry to say my priest scares me so I don't really want to ask in case he gets into a rage at me lol I want to renew my vows and I would love to do this in Church as I was married in a registry office ( was homeless at the time LOOONNGG Story lol) but I now that in the eyes of the church we are not married because of this, but someone told me that this has changed is this so? and has anyone done it? If you can all help me then I can go fore warned to my priest and ask him just don't want to be told I can't and get a lecture thrown in I KNOW I AM A CHICKEN Thanks
Sandee

floss2

Why not ring the Dioscesan offices & ask them...after all, the Bishop / Archbishop is your parish priest's human boss!

sandeevie

Thank you never crossed my mind i can be so blank some times
Sandee

BOBS

Why do you attend that particular Church if you are "scared" of the priest?? Isnt there somewhere else in your area where you could go and be more comfortable and on good terms with the priest and feel that you could have a chat with him?? ...... or maybe if you actually do chat properly to this guy he wont be as scarey as he comes across ....

nat82

The Catholic Church don't recognise marriages that take place outwith the Catholic Church, that's still the case I'm afraid. I don't think they would allow you to renew vows of a marriage that they don't recognise but you need to speak to your Priest about this. You could try speaking to another Priest for advice but to do anything outwith your own Parish catchment would mean that you would need your own Priests permission so he would be aware of anything that you do in another church (Catholic). He might also be miffed that he felt you couldn't talk to him!!!

I know what you mean though as this is how we felt about our Priest! We did eventually change to another parish!

Good luck!

naughty_angel

you could ask for a blessing though...not the same as renewing your vows but its a thought!

katiecoodle

I swear that I'm not trying to be difficult, but am genuinely interested in the answer...what happens when someone who is married & is subsequently converted to catholocism then? Does the church recognise that marriage or do they insist on another wedding? I don't get it

ariba10

I cannot see how you wish to belong to a church that has a priest that you are afraid of?

VfM4meplse

I have every respect for Catholicism but I do wonder about why certain inflexibilities persist when much bigger sins have been committed against the vulnerable.

Whilst I realise this is important to you, I'm sure God recognises your committment even if you don't get the marriage blessed in church. With church numbers dwindling I don't think the Archbishop can afford not to know who within the church is a deterrent to it's flock.

nat82

katiecoodle wrote: »

I swear that I'm not trying to be difficult, but am genuinely interested in the answer...what happens when someone who is married & is subsequently converted to catholocism then? Does the church recognise that marriage or do they insist on another wedding? I don't get it

I'm not sure about having another wedding and how this would work in a legal capacity but certainly if it wasn't done in the CC then the CC won't recognise it.

VfM4meplse

nat82 wrote: »

I'm not sure about having another wedding and how this would work in a legal capacity but certainly if it wasn't done in the CC then the CC won't recognise it.

But God would still welcome you even if the church doors are closed.