im struggling with my job promotion

chuckie-egg

I've recently been given a job promotion at work going from been a sales assistant to an assistant manager and im finding it really difficult.

Noone seems to take my new job role seriously and they dont like it when i ask them to do jobs.

Im wishing i had never taken the job role on its so difficult and its started to really upset me. I feel like im letting my manager down and i feel so disappointed in myself.

I just dont know what to do if i give the role up i will be disappointed in myself but then if i carry on with it i will just feel so unhappy.

Anyone been in a simular situation?

jimsam

Hello Chuckie-egg, sorry to hear you are having a tough time in your new job. I faced a similar situation when i was promoted into a role. I had very little training and struggled with my workload.. Some days i really felt so down i just wanted to walk out but 2 1/2 years later i am still there.

For me i had to define what my role was exactly about as i tended to take too much on! If you get yearly objectives try to stay close to them and delegate out anything that does not fit in with them, which i know can be difficult

Learn as much from someone else who has done that role before if possible. Also ask for training that is relevant to your role such as managerial skills. I would also let your boss know how you feel and that you are not getting the support you require, it should be in his interest to develop his own people!!

Hope some of this helps

bristol_pilot

Sack someone - it will encourage the others.

flossy_splodge

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Noone seems to take my new job role seriously and they dont like it when i ask them to do jobs.
No of course they don't - ever heard of man's resistance to change? It will take time, that's all. In the meantime you need to be clear that you are now senior and not try to be 'friends'. That doesn't mean going all superior, just about appropriate boundaries. Its something that eases with practice!:o

Im wishing i had never taken the job role on its so difficult and its started to really upset me.
It'll only upset you if you let it. You have a choice.
Try to understand what your previous peer group are expeirencing and then you'll focus more on them and less on you.

I feel like im letting my manager down then don't! and i feel so disappointed in myself.
Why? You are allowed not to be perfect and to need some time to adjust to your new role just as others need time to adjust to it.

I just dont know what to do if i give the role up i will be disappointed in myself but then if i carry on with it i will just feel so unhappy.

Oh dear, lighten up on the doom and gloom. There's no need for ANYONE to be unhappy. So you have some new skills to gain. So what. Just get on and learn them. There's plenty on these forums who can advise on individual occurrences. Just reach out for help and step forward into your new role. New things take time.
Good luck and ENJOY!
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bumblebee23

You should definitely have a word with your manager, it's bound to be difficult for your colleagues to see you going from 'one of us' to 'one of them'. Your manager should be supporting you through this.

Keep at it, if you are losing your own self confidence the other staff will pick up on that and will be even more awkward. Just stay calm and firm, if you ask them to do a task, stand there and watch them until they do it - if they still refuse then take the appropriate disciplinary action. You will no doubt be unpopular for a while, but I'm sure they will come around eventually

Floss

Are you getting any support & training in your new role? I would suggest speaking to your manager & asking for this support to enable you to grow into the job, it should include conflict management & delegation skills.

Don't give up just yet

ukclarkkent

i had the same in that i got promotion - on paper anyway - but nothing really changed. i still sat at the same desk, did the same jobs but got paid better for it.

it was never really announced that i changed position and maybe that was a mistake. i tried to be the superior of my colleagues but it wasn't working so i gave up and just did things for myself, i.e. courses, etc. nothing's really changed except my payslip has bigger numbers in it.

masonsmum

When I worked for a travel call centre I was promoted to Team Leader and found it really difficult at first due to the attitudes of my work colleagues.

I just had to alter my friendships with them as we had all previously been really close as we had all started with the company at the same time. Just be firm with them and make them understand that this is your role now and you will not back down.

Hope it all works out for you.

chuckie-egg

masonsmum wrote: »

When I worked for a travel call centre I was promoted to Team Leader and found it really difficult at first due to the attitudes of my work colleagues.

I just had to alter my friendships with them as we had all previously been really close as we had all started with the company at the same time. Just be firm with them and make them understand that this is your role now and you will not back down.

Hope it all works out for you.

Im trying to alter friendships with certain people im hoping this will work but theres one person who i was good friends with making it extremely difficult for me everytime i ask her to do something she sulks and b!tches about me to other staff. She's complained about me to my manager saying i have it in for her which really knocked my confidence.

chuckie-egg

bumblebee23 wrote: »

You should definitely have a word with your manager, it's bound to be difficult for your colleagues to see you going from 'one of us' to 'one of them'. Your manager should be supporting you through this.

Keep at it, if you are losing your own self confidence the other staff will pick up on that and will be even more awkward. Just stay calm and firm, if you ask them to do a task, stand there and watch them until they do it - if they still refuse then take the appropriate disciplinary action. You will no doubt be unpopular for a while, but I'm sure they will come around eventually

i feel like if i tell my manager she will think im not coping (which im not!) and wont think im suitable for the job

bristol_pilot

I refer you to the answer I gave previously. You simply need to learn that these people are not your friends.