What rights do I have as a 'Common in law wife'?

smartpicture

Fritillary wrote: »

He's offered £15,000. The plot's worth £90,000. He said I haven't contributed enough to warrant more. I said a a split of 60/40 in his favour was fairer. He got really angry and upset, said he would move out and I could sell the plot and have it all if I was going to be 'like that'.
I now feel like the worlds biggest b..tch.

Thoughts please?

He's trying to manipulate you. Don't let him. Seriously, get legal advice on what you are actually entitled to, so that you know whether you are negotiating from a position of strength or not. For him to make an offer like that, he clearly doesn't respect you or the 20-odd years you've spent together, so why should you just roll over and give him what he wants? This is the rest of your future you're talking about, and 15k isnt going to go very far.

I know it's hard, but you need to toughen up and start being a bit more selfish - like he is being.

Fritillary

smartpicture wrote: »

He's trying to manipulate you. Don't let him. Seriously, get legal advice on what you are actually entitled to, so that you know whether you are negotiating from a position of strength or not. For him to make an offer like that, he clearly doesn't respect you or the 20-odd years you've spent together, so why should you just roll over and give him what he wants? This is the rest of your future you're talking about, and 15k isnt going to go very far.

I know it's hard, but you need to toughen up and start being a bit more selfish - like he is being.

Thanks smartpicture, I think I just needed someone else to verify that I wasn't being unreasonable/selfish to want more. I love him so much but I'm not going to be a pushover.

Oldernotwiser

Fritillary wrote: »

He got really angry and upset, said he would move out and I could sell the plot and have it all if I was going to be 'like that'.
I now feel like the worlds biggest b..tch.

Thoughts please?

None of this matters anymore as he's leaving; just let him be as angry and upset as he chooses.