My Friend - Please Help

Doomed_Economy

It sounds as though he's going along with the charade of his business because he doesn't have to face facts - yet. If his OH leaves him, then whats he going to do? Debts, no income, no money to pay rent, buy food, etc. You might be surprised at how quickly he'll swallow his pride.

Never mind though, on the upside he'll probably offer to cut you in on his business - I mean, he'd be doing you a favour really!

gem4

Paisley, I feel for you because of your loyalty to your friend. My son is much the same as your mate, he'll never have any money, always be in debt and always have ideas of making quick cash without too much effort, although to be fair my son does work. However, when he gets paid he draws it out and spends it within the first 2 weeks, then asks me to 'lend' him a tenner or whatever so he can buy electricity or food. I've pointed him in the direction of this site, nagged him relentlessly about sorting his debts out and said I'm not going to be his personal banker. All to no avail. It's easy to say get tough with him but not so easy to do. He has to want to do it for himself. I have doubts as to whether he will get the message until he has tried this silly get rich quick scheme and failed miserably. However, by this point he will have more debt, no girlfriend and no home and you will be the person he'll turn to, and you will feel guilty then for not being tougher on him. I know, I've been thru it all. The only good thing to come out of my son's situation are my two lovely grandkids. I swear he has two heads, the debt one is buried in the sand and the other one is floating in the clouds. Sounds like your friend has the same affliction. Hard as it is, you have to get tough with him. If he doesnt take hints, be blunt. Good luck.

Foxy106

You've known him for a lot of years you say? Then yes you can afford to be blunt with him, but make sure you tell him its because you care and value his friendship. You wouldn't be a real friend if you can't be totally honest with him. Hope he realises what a good friend he does have in you. Good Luck! ;-)