Why are the shared care rules so biased?

Soubrette

I was having a think last night (if only I was a solicitor and could charge;)) one idea for evidence and making sure the children were picked up after school maybe to actually get the school involved.

Advise them of which nights the PWC is supposed to be picking up and ask to be rung if they are not picked up after 10-15 mins (get the children to go back into the office).

Ask the school to document this and tell them that if you are rung in this situation, you will pick up the children yourself.

You then make sure the children are safe as well has having an unbiased record of how many times you pick them up from school (keep a record yourself as well of course).

Sou

Loopy_Girl

I don't know who is worse....the ex for carrying on like this or you pair for letting her - why are you letting her dictate your lives like this?

Your hubby needs to grow a set and start laying down some rules. No, it's not acceptable that you pick them up on her nights - she'll need to find childcare and if she wants her kids to be looked after by one of the parents then she will need to reassess her career. Tell her you are not doing it and tell the school the days that you are due to pick the children up and any other day is the Mother's responsibility. Don't be a softy and cave in and if it is one of her days and the school phone then say you are sorry but you are too far away to fetch the kids. The school will be quick enough to phone her back.

As others have said you are also diddling yourself out of money. Sit down and work it out and tell her that is the new figure. If she doesn't like it then tough, tell her you will go through the CSA. Also to note that if she is on a really good salary and not eligible for WTC then her wage would get taken into consideration for the assessment.

Stop acting like a pair of doormats and allowing her to act like she is a single woman and you are run ragged and probably neglecting YOUR kids as you are running around after hers.

She's only acting like this becasue you are letting her. I wonder what the kids think of this when they see what a loan of Dad is being taken for - who is not to say that this won't follow them into young adulthood and they have no respect for Dad?

Seriously, you both need to get this sorted. Sure she will probably threaten that you are not seeing the kids but you call her bluff - if she follows it through then you will know she is a money geabbing cow and you can tell the kids this when they are old enough to understand about adult relationships and how bitter someone can get.

LizzieS_2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Also to note that if she is on a really good salary and not eligible for WTC then her wage would get taken into consideration for the assessment.

No they wouldn't as it would be classed as a csa2 case.

Loopy_Girl

LizzieS wrote: »

No they wouldn't as it would be classed as a csa2 case.

My mistake - thanks Lizzie. Sorry OP