help needed severely stretched crimped britle frizzy damaged hair

Justie

what are you currently using - shampoo, conditioner etc.

and how often do you wash your hair - you may well be over washing it.

and if all else fails you may need to think about a different style and maybe having it cut shorter or having it plaited or other things... It sounds as though you'd be better off with a shorter style if you can only ever wear it up anyway.

If you want to keep it long then never brush it only even use an afro comb and preferably only when it's wet and has conditioner in it. I would also find a local (or even travel) hairdresser who specialises in 'afro' hair as you're more likely to get both a cut and aftercare instructions that will suit your hair.

random456

i wash it once a week any more than that and i just cant cope. i use the strongest conditioners available i have tried just about every one on the market including protein packs, cholestrol etc, frizz ease is useless. I'm too old to have plaited hair (besides the plait is so thick it looks like a horses tail!) i just want lovely poker straight hair i only comb it when wet and i do use a great hairdresser but i dont want short hair as it doesnt suit me at all. Do you know the lady i am talking about on bb? i feel her pain lol!!!!

brix_2

brindles01 wrote: »

Put Olive Oil BP, very cheap at Wilko and Savers, on your hair when its dry just before it needs washing, leave as long as possible, even overnight, dont worry about it looking a bit strange, then shampoo it out as normal and conditioner. Also leave your hair to dry as long as possible by itself before styling, I hardly use my hairdryer now because, if you are using straigteners, they do all the styling work so you are exposing your hair to only one heat source when its required, not frazzling it with excess heat. Hope you have success

this is really good advice, i've found that it works for me when i can be bothered. sometimes i use normal extra virgin olive oil and wrap my head in clingfilm and a hat for a few hours.

GHD straighteners are amazing for frizzy hair, too. if i spend an hour straightening my damp hair with them, i have smooth hair for at least 2 days afterwards, which is something of a miracle for me!

elle45

Hi, I,m a hairstylist, so I will give you advise that I would give in a salon. First you need to do is go to a good hairdresser recommended by someone. It sounds ,that you need a little bit of layering to take away the triangle effect!! Then let your hairdresser prescribe the best products to use. Secondly, I would suggest is lay off any heated appliances as this is definately adding to the damage to your hair. I would use velcro rollers when the hair is just damp. If your hair is naturally curly, no amount of straightening is going to happen I,m afraid!! Go with the curls, not against it. When your hair is dry then take out the velcro rollers and don,t brush it just put your fingers through it. Then just get a little of conditioner, rub it in your hands and apply to your dry hair. I hope this will be some help to you, let me know how you get on!!!:D

msmiller

Honey, I'm so sorry to hear you are still having problems with your hair

I think the best thing to do is go to a really good hairdresser and have a consultation. Tell the stylist just how difficult it is and hopefully they will give you a more managable cut and some useful advice.

JennyW_2

Hi. Can I ask, is your hair naturally this way or has it been damaged (chemically)?

If it's naturally this unruly then you will probably need a different cut and some good styling and professional products (I've tried Kerastase (sp?) in the past and currently use Aveda. All these help but of course you'll need to find a good stylist and one you can trust. Eaiser said than done. You could always have a few consultations in various salons and see which one you feel most confident with.

If it's chemically damaged then I personally would have a very good hair cut (I'm sure there is a short style which would suit you and start again instead of trying to battle on, probably causing more damage.

Thing is, once hair is damaged, there is little you can do apart from coating it with products in the hope this will calm and soothe it. Hair is a dead product so once it's damaged, it's damaged. It's like split ends, it's crap all these products which claim to repair them - you cant repair split ends - the only thing to do is cut them off. Sorry I'm going on here but I have 2 brothers who are hairdressers so I've learnt quite a lot over the years.

I know who you mean in BB - although I'm sure if she had a make-over they'd be able to do something with her hair. That's the thing you see, you just need to find someone who is knowledgable and experienced. I know Nicky Clarke has a salon and he does hair for the public as well as celebs but I know the waiting list is very long.

random456

thanks for all your replies. my hair just went like this at puberty, but it is overdried due to straightening, but if i dont straighten i would not leave the house it looks that awful, to me it looks dirty and trampy because its not curly or straight, its just like that womans off bb only wider! (no offence to her btw!) i really really dont want short hair. toni and guy who are the only people i will let near my hair say not to have short layers as it will make my hair look wider as the weight is helping to pull it down...they get it so straight there though, but then you wash it and its diana ross! its so depressing!
re the rollers, i would need about 4 packs of them, and my hair would end up as a huge bouffant, so i would still have to tie it back. t&g say i have an immense amount of hair (you cant really see any partings at all) so rollers would take hours. ive trie the oil thing all night to but like you say all it does is coat. the only one thing i havent tried is loreal power repair which is meant to be the best thing you can get, so i am going to try that and then go to t&g and ask them to somehow thin it out (which i always do, they hack loads out but it stays massive!!!) i do have layers but not short ones, it doesnt really make any difference, i dont know how they can thin my hair without putting really short bits in it cos i really dont want that. its the top layer of hair thats the worst too!:(

larmy16

Pumpa, I have very dry thick coarse hair and am too old to wear it long. It is neither really curly, nor straight, just annoying. I bought some gel type conditioning stuff from Sallys which was for black hair. It comes in a huge pot with a green lid (sorry dont remember the name) and it was v. cheap. I put it through my hair when it is wet and it seems to tame the madness somewhat!

It sounds though as if you have tried everything going. I find my hair just seems to drink any product put on it, especially those frizz serums.

I never brush it. After washing it (only once a week), I tend to wet it and place some conditioner in my hands, say a 50p piece amount and then spread that through my hair and leave to dry naturally.

I also use that Vitapointe dry hair creme. That seems to help a little. Also Schwarzkopf(?) do a spray shine that tames the hair a bit too.

Bags of sympathy coming your way!!!:D

julesgr

Layers needn't be short, I look like Crystal tipps if i don't have layers cut in to my hair!
Get a hairdresser to put your hair into a decent style while curly, the problem with hairdressers like T& G is they don't like to displease and so go with the clients wishes even if it's not entirely suitable (unfortunately experience has proved this to me).

You can get chemical straighteners for european hair now so that might be worth a try (available in Boots for a home kit) but i would seriously suggest no heat treatments as well for a while as you will do further damage.

sylvester3103

Feel for you - I've had problems for years. If you really don't want to cut your hair you could try what I've done and found really, really helped. I have cut out shampoo almost entirely, and only use conditioners without silicones in them - which usually means cheap stuff e.g. Boots own brand, not expensive! Silicones coat your hair, but many argue that in the long run they dry it out.

You wet your hair, apply a good amount of (non silicone) conditioner, rub it in as if it's shampoo, rinse, then condition maybe another couple of times as normal. Conditioners contain a small amount of shampoo. It sounds disgusting but, give it time and it really works. You can use a small amount of the conditioner on your wet hair as a leave in or smoothing balm DON'T BRUSH WHEN WET! If I'm going out and want even more softness I use Clynol smoothing lotion which isn't as greasy as FrizzEase. Hope this helps