Wedding Gift Etiquette

amylou161202

Have decided not to have a wedding gift list as have been together 10 years have 2 kids,dog, house and everything we could ever wish for anyone else doing the same??

IWantToBeFree_2

I'm not doing a gift list, I hate the idea of them, I don't want people to think they have to bring anything with them to the wedding, i just want them to be there.

debs2327

hi we are not having a gift list personally i think its cheeky to tell your guests what to buy you , im not really bothered about getting stuff for the house but i have told my mil ( which means ive told everyone lol) that if we do get any houshold stuff we would use it / and not return it , i know she has already mentioned to a few ppl that vouchers would be better choice ,ive left it up to the guests i wouldnt even mind if they didnt bring either a present or a card , as long as they came xx

aimee21j

I hate gift lists and those poems about giving money. I don't see why anyone expects anything. If you have a birthday party, you don't put on the inivitations that you want money! Sorry to rant but this is one of my pet hates.

Itsgottabedone

So great to see people turning away from the wedding list thing - the most unsatisfactory experience is accessing the list online, paying for your choice, pressing the button and job done! Didn't even get to see the gift, as it was delivered direct to the happy couple. And entirely missed out on the enjoyable aspects of deciding what they'd like, buying it, wrapping it and handing it over!

I recently heard about a couple having a party to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary and sending out a gift list with the invitations - aaargh! Is it me, or is this just TOO awful?

DaisyFlower

I didnt do a wedding list either as think asking for or expecting gifts is very cheeky.

Hate the poems asking for money, I always ignore them as part of the fun of gifting is choosing the present rather than being told what to buy. Asking for money is like having to pay to go to the event!

Carrera74

We didn't have a guest list as we have lived together for a number of years but some friends and family asked us what we wanted as they wanted to buy us a gift. We said we just wanted them to join our day but if they wanted to buy us a gift then we would be very pleased with B&Q vouchers so we can put towards sorting our garden out. Even saying that made me feel uncomfortable but a lot of our family/friends said they would rather get us something that we could use. I couldn't bear to send out a poem or a list. It just seemed far too rude. Our guests spent enough on the day getting to the venue and some of them stopped over.

TighterThanTwoCoatsOfPain

we did do one either, but have been in-undated with people asking why... we explained that we dont 'need' anything but that doesnt seem to help!

I think vouchers are an especially bad idea, as not only are you committed to a particular shop, but in this climate there is no gaurantee the shop will even be there in 2 weeks.

Then you have the miserable people who only look on the bad side of everything (there are some on MSE!) making comments like "oh, they have done a list which means they want money"..

Short answer is that you cant really win.

aimee21j

Itsgottabedone wrote: »

I recently heard about a couple having a party to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary and sending out a gift list with the invitations - aaargh! Is it me, or is this just TOO awful?

How cheeky! They would get a card and nowt else from me.

provista_2

We got an invite to a 60th birthday and written on the back was a list of gifts she would like.
We are not going.

provista_2

When we got married (20 years ago) it was the done thing to have a list in reserve for people to look at if they insisted on buying anything. Our list only had low priced items on it.