Please help - is it time??

claireac

Another one in tears - we had our beloved cocker spaniel Jasper pts on 2nd Jan. He'd been ill for a few, and it is true, you know when the time was right. We thought he was rallying, but he just couldn't do it, had put on weigh due to massive doses of steroids and just had little quality of life. I spent hours sat with him talking - and asking if he wanted to go now. Prob sounds daft to some, but if helped.

Take lots of pics and make lots of happy memories. It's such a difficult time, but you'll be eternally grateful you havethis extra time.

Good luck to you both xxx

maemaesmummy

Yes Im crying too... just enjoy the time you have.... I think you will know when the time is right.

I lost my baby last November and it was so, so, sudden my only regret is I didnt get some extra time with her my comfort is she is running free at Rainbow Bridge.

Take Care.

mini_huny_money

Am crying as I write but you will know when the time has come and so will she

We're so glad we had this last week with Sasha. Sorry I can't say much more just now except enjoy her and spoil her. We did.

leiela

Thanks guys i just feel so guilty right now.

I know she's going and when the time is right it will be the right thing to do, but im just so filled with so much regret about the things i didn't do for her.

Everyone keeps telling me that many people would have sent her back to the rescue centre knowing they would have put her to sleep years ago, or they would have just put her to sleep anyway.

But i just can't help but feel that i neglected and mistreated her, she is such a sweet dog she deserved so much better than i gave her.

xxlaurissaxx

Im in tears too at my work! Is so sad but you are doing the right thing and at least you know she will be happy, in no pain and at peace. Spend as much time with her and as someone said earlier take loads of photos.

xx

hethmar

Its so so hard. We always feel guilty, as though we are making the choice for our reasons, not for theirs. And as someone said, there are the times they seem to rally and you think, Oh, theyve made a mistake. But you will grieve now every day til the time comes - it is natural to do so. But be comforted that your dog is one of the lucky ones. She has had love, comfort, food and care - and someone who loves her dearly will be there when she goes. Personally, I would have the vet come to your home at the time - not take her there.

I do hope when you have got through the grief you will find it in your heart to give that sort of care to another deserving little soul

xxx

Francesanne

I'm so sorry to read about Millie and you must be so distraught. Our beautiful dog Lily was diagnosed with a tumour behind her eye and the only option was chemo. I really didn't want to put her through that treatment but my husband couldn't bear to put her to sleep and wanted to give it a try. Thankfully, the treatment wasn't distressing for her and she did really well on it. She had no awful side effects and apart from her poor eye looking pretty ghastly she was her old self. She was receiving the best possible care and was receiving regular injections and blood tests. On one of her regular check ups we were devasted to learn the cancer had spread to her spleen. It was then we decided enough was enough and we were terrified her spleen might ruputure and she would suffer and have a horrible death. We had 18 months months extra with her after the tumour was first diagnosed and we were so thankful for that extra time. We made an appointment with the vet and my poor husband had to take her on her own because I just couldn't face going despite knowing it was for the best and it would be a very peaceful death. It's the most dreadful decision to make but you know your dog and you'll know when enough is enough. My heart breaks for you and I know what you're going through. Love to you and to Millie.

foreign_correspondent

leila - I can understand why you feel guilty, as I remember from your last thread that she had not had the best life in some ways, being kept outside because of her behavioral issues...

It does sound like it was less than ideal, however, you did make sure her kennel was warm and snug, and she did not really know any different, and it sounds like it may well have had a better time with you than she did in her last home.

However, and I know this may sound harsh - please do not get any more pets - I know the tension it has created between you your husband, especially when vetinary costs have been involved, both with the dog and the cat.

Pets (as you know!) can cost a fortune, be challenging and take up hours of your time, and if both of you are not committed to that it is a recipe for disaster. It creates problems not only for the animal, but for you, your relationship, and possibly your kids too.

I hope you can have a good last few weeks with your dog and perhaps give her some fun and treats which will help you feel you have helped her have a happy ending to her life.

shelly

Another one crying here.
We had to have Coco PTS on 29th Dec and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. She too had cancer that had been operated on and came back within a month. She was with us for 16 years.

As everyone else has said you will know when her time has come. You instinctively do.
I still feel guilty now that I let her go too easily but I know she was bad that night, struggling for breath and we did what was best for her.
We only had 10 days with her after the final visit to the vet. We really thought we had a couple of months so didn't take any more pics of her than we had already.....I regret that now.

Cherish the time you have left but don't think too much about the end.

shelly x

suki1964

leiela wrote: »

Thanks guys i just feel so guilty right now.

I know she's going and when the time is right it will be the right thing to do, but im just so filled with so much regret about the things i didn't do for her.

Everyone keeps telling me that many people would have sent her back to the rescue centre knowing they would have put her to sleep years ago, or they would have just put her to sleep anyway.

But i just can't help but feel that i neglected and mistreated her, she is such a sweet dog she deserved so much better than i gave her.

Thats part and parcel of the grieving Im afraid but you will get past that - honest


You have nothing to feel guilty about , she had a good life and you Im sure done everything in your power to bring that about. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but we all do the best we can with what we have at the time. If you done that then you have done a great job, no one could ask more of you.

Just enjoy the time you have left and believe me you will soon be only remembering the good times, the what ifs will fade (as they should)