If things get tougher?

Uniscots97

mardatha wrote: »

I agree Owl. Even at our advanced stage of life when you've plotted & schemed & planned, things pop out of the woodwork and ruin everything. I think you have to keep a bit of "one day at a time" in order to stay sane.
I'm having a horrible black day and I dono why. Using all my spare money to stock up at Costco seems stupid;buying my remoska & camp stove seems a huge waste of money; trying to cook after a lifetime of hating it seems futile; I need a hard OS shake I think !

Mardatha, :grouphug: sending you a hug it sounds like you need it. Stocking up at Costco isn't stupid it's sensible if you'll use the stuff you're buying. I would still shop at Costco if I lived nearer it, the items we were buying it wasn't worth the extra fuel cost but I do miss Costco. Its easier buying from there then you know you have what you need and not paid a fortune for it. I miss their pizzas .

BilberryCharlotte

mardatha wrote: »

I agree Owl. Even at our advanced stage of life when you've plotted & schemed & planned, things pop out of the woodwork and ruin everything. I think you have to keep a bit of "one day at a time" in order to stay sane.
I'm having a horrible black day and I dono why. Using all my spare money to stock up at Costco seems stupid;buying my remoska & camp stove seems a huge waste of money; trying to cook after a lifetime of hating it seems futile; I need a hard OS shake I think !

mardatha, I am so sorry that you are having such a bleak time of it today. I hope that something lovely will happen soon, something that makes you realise what a shrewd, prudent, farsighted and generally all round clever cookie you are.

shaz_mum_of__2

katieowl wrote: »

Selling up and moving out of London was our plan too...we should have been gone this summer, we had an asking price buyer, then HIS buyer pulled out, and we've not had a body through the door since (May)

Us too

We were offered a 4 bed vicarage to rent for £400 pcm inclusive of everything except water rates!!! with a huge garden and we would be able to give up work and live on savings from the sale of our home and be self sufficient

Week after we put house on the market the credit crunch happened :mad:

Now we have accepted we won't be moving and done some work on our garden so we can do more veg growing and chickens:D

Still got to pay for the HIP though although i think there is a clause about after a year on the market there's no charge or some insurance thingy ??


Shaz

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somehow everyone on here has got to try and keep themselves cheerful and out of the depression pit. Little steps help and we`re helping each other, just like in a real os community

When I was younger, up to my 50s, I seemed to always be planning ahead even if it was subconscious and there was always a kind of inner striving for the future. Suddenly and I know not when, that stopped and I started living in the present and believe me it is a nicer place to be. The past is gone, done and dusted and who wants to know their future, not me. I think this living in the present is something that happens as some of us get older and it is a sort of acceptance of life. I think it makes it easier to cope with developing aches and pains, children being independent and so on

Mardatha get yourself out, even if it is raining or watch a good film, just accept that it is one of those days that we all have sometimes. Go with it and it won`t get the better of you

mardatha

what a shrewd, prudent, farsighted and generally all round clever cookie you are.
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LOL that did it! hysterical giggles ! thank you. I will copy and print this and stick it on the fridge for the OH !! lolol! THANKS LADIES XXX
--edited to add --the postie jsut brought my "Hovel in the Hills" book, between you and that, that's me happy

katieowl_2

shaz_mum_of__2 wrote: »

Us too

Still got to pay for the HIP though although i think there is a clause about after a year on the market there's no charge or some insurance thingy ??


Shaz

I'll dig my paperwork out and have a look - I thought it only lasted a year I assumed you then had to get another? PITA as if you pull your house off the market the fee becomes due in 14 days....Otherwise ours was due six months after issue...about mid September for us. Grrr...

It's just thanks to somebody posting about fees due to solicitors on a sale falling through in the House Buying bit of MSE, that I didn't send my bundle of papers off to the soclicitor when the first buyer fell through...He said "Oh send it all back anyway, and we'll be quick and ready to move when your next buyer comes along...." I thought hang on a minute...if I don't get one is he's going to charge me for the work HE's done at somepoint?? So I just completed all the forms and slung them in a box!

I've not heard a peep from him, so I'm assuming I don't owe him for sending the forms out...solicitors feel a bit like taxis - the meter always seems to be running!

Regards

Kate

katieowl_2

I was having a REALLY bad day Monday and all the kids were at home... If I'm going to be miserable I'd like a bit of privacy!

Think we need a GROUP HUG!!!!

I'm a bit more cheerful as I picked up my 'new' car yesterday - it's an L Reg Nissan Micra. I'm going out to run some errands with my son thisafternoon. Not very MSE to get a car...I guess, but honestly my mental health depends on it. I'd been scraping the cash together since the last one was scrapped, starting with the £60 I got scrap value, amd the refund on the Road Tax. My mum and friend both gave me ££ for my birthday last week as they knew how desperate I was to be mobile again, and I sold my trike for £150 to a charity as it does my back in just getting it in and out of the garden. Just scraped it all up....and a rare thing, I just found a £50 note in my cash box!!! (The money my friend gave me - it was in a separate envelope! I'd forgotten about the Scrap money!) Everyone thinks I got a bargain too which is nice.

MARDATHA: I hope you love Hovel in the Hills as much as I do - it's probably my second favorite book!

Regards

Kate

mary43

originally posted by BilberryCharlotte
You seem to be doing great Mary, perhaps you may get more beans yet. My strawberries have `runners`? that you can plant for next year apparently, have you tried that, and if so does it seem worth doing?

Will you freeze the carrots? I am now wishing I had a much bigger freezer, like the one I had in the 70`s. It was a huge `chest` type freezer, and when I moved house and decided not to take it with me, the bloke who did the removal liked it so much that he took it, moved me for free (only a couple of miles away) and gave me a tenner. Would you say that was fairly old style? lol I wish I had a freezer like it now though.

Sounds like you did ok to me.........free removal has got to be worth it.You can always advertise on Freecycle for another freezer and see if one comes up. Might not be the same as the one you had but, well, long as it does the job thats the main thing.
We're hoping to have enough carrots to 'eat some, freeze some' but we'll have to see. Seems the reason our spinach 'bolted' like it did was due to the weather -from what I gather on Greenfingers board. As for the strawberries, we tried runners last year......bit awkward as the strawberries are in a tub growing quite happily around a palm. We popped some runners into small pots around the tub but what with cats, kids etc. they got knocked over.............lol Still, not the end of the world and I'm sure the beans will pick up as time goes on. Fingers crossed.

Marthada - sounds like you've cheered up -hope it keeps up that way

Talking about planning ahead...........well that was something years ago I never did and wish I had...........maybe we would be in a better financial position now ? Who knows. But I find now I want to plan for next year and the year after, as if I need to have something to look forward to...........is it because I'm older I wonder ? But then I end up with lists of 'I'm going to do......' and I don't.......................lol

Uniscots97

mary43 wrote: »

Talking about planning ahead...........well that was something years ago I never did and wish I had...........maybe we would be in a better financial position now ? Who knows.

I stopped thinking "what if", I realised that without my debt I wouldn't be here (long story with that one) and I wouldn't be the person that I am nor have the skills I have (growing veg, diy etc), nor have had the fun and laughter I have had along the way (playing board games with the kids and OH, falling in the burn with my best friend after we tried getting some plant cuttings, meeting some great people through freecycle). I realise that I have the skills now to have a proper life not one full of the latest and greatest and by proper I mean:-

sharing home made 'whatever' with those you care about.
putting time and thought into someone's present and seeing the joy in their face when they open it.
watching the kids learn, grow, laugh and share by doing something as simple as playing a game with them.
the satisfaction of knowing the roses I have in my house are one 'I' grew in my garden.


and probably many more. I know one day my debt will be paid off but I'll still have these skills and have a better life for it.

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That`s it unixgirl. That is why there is a good side to all this credit crunch stuff and that is why I and some others, feel excited and challenged. It`s the caring and sharing that comes from interacting with other like minds ie our mini community in the making and loneliness is out of the window. Ooooo I suddenly have one of those excited happy bubbles in my inside, like something really good is happening