boss trying to get rid of me - please help

breezeway

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ohreally

You can of course resign however it is unlikely to have a positive outcome not least in respect of a reference. Given you feel you've done nothing wrong, don't resign.

For what it's worth any BECTU lay reps i've come across have been fairly switched on and up to the job.

breezeway

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Debt_Free_Chick

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my company hates unions and does not recognize bectu which is the one I need to use - they don't mind acas but I think they believe they are above unions

ACAS is an advisory service - not a "employee representative". Think of ACAS as CAB in relation to employment related issues.

Confusedconsumer_2

Sorry to hear of your situation. I don't know if it is significant but you mention that you are a female. Is it possible that you are being discriminated against because of your sex?

While you are waiting to speak with ACAS, you might want to look at
www.adviceguide.org.uk - under employment.

You say that the company are looking for an opportunity to 'get you out', be careful in your dealings with them - they may accuse you of being paranoid!

Good Luck

CYBERCIDERSAVER

Just want to offer my sympathies really, I was bullied by a manager of mine for over 6 months. Although support from my other colleagues helped me through it.

All I would suggest is keep your ear to the ground and see what turns up. I agree with you about HR. In a previous company I worked for stuf wasn't confidential. Everyone knew exactly what was going on, they just didn't talk openly about it.

Also I agrre that the union is the best way forward. Having someone on your side is always good, for morale if nothing else. It will also mean your boss will have to be extra careful about how he handles the situation. If he can't get rid of someone who's committing fraud then he should (hopefully) find it impossible to get rid of you.

What do your fellow managers make of your shift away from your responsibilities??

breezeway

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Janey3

Just want to add my sympathies to you Breezeway, having been in a similar situation years ago but with a small company. I left as I was becoming a nervous reck and making myself ill. I went temping to tide me over, although I know this doesn't pay a great deal and the job situation is so different nowadays but it certainly gave me my confidence back. Life has a funny way of coming full circle, as I heard my bully had to leave the country hastily a few years later in disgrace.

I wish you well, and remember, your health and kids come first.

Janey3

adecor

You're situation sounds so similar to mine - new boss & very little in writing. I was doing exactly the same as you at work & just hoped & prayed that it would all just disappear and go back to 'normal'. I'd been with my company about the same amount of time & loved my job. One day I just 'lost the plot' & almost ran out - this is known as flight syndrome & quite normal aparently. This seriously effects your health - I got the chest pains, no sleep, pin & needes, etc. & went to hospital too. This site helps you understand things more and I'm sure you will recognise symptoms that you are experiencing http://www.bullyoffline.org/workbully/amibeing.htm
I'm so pleased that you're going to see your gp - that's a first step to recognising you are now not well. I ended up needing therapy as my self-esteem hit rock bottom. If you have any private healthcare I would recommend that see a funny farm doctor & would highly recommend going along to group sessions as they really do help you feel good about yourself again and make you realise (even though you know deep down) that none of it is your fault.
I wish you all the luck in the world and my heart truely goes out to you. Remember that it will work out OK in the end - you just might have to look at a slightly change to your career. I ended up with a compromise agreement & I've just started a new job and feel like a new person after being off sick for almost 18 months.