Autistic ? anger in young child how do you reduce their anger?

Mandles

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

My friend found that it was essential not to say NO to her child at that age, ever, or there would be a real meltdown. Of course this didn't mean the child was able to get their own way all the time, just that saying NO was a NO-NO.

Even now the child is (just) at secondary school, I think NO is a bit of a dodgy word. At school and home they try to say things like "hurting people is not allowed" rather than "Don't hurt people".

I don't know if that would help you at all. I know you say reasoning doesn't work (and I can understand that!), but would there be a better response to him knowing what is and isn't 'allowed'? eg hitting the cushion is allowed, hitting people is not allowed.

Anything useful on the NAS website?

You cannot reason with him as his speech and language skills are so incredibly poor and behind that at the moment he is incapable of being able to reason. This is our main problem with him. (I know in the future we will be able to reason with him but it just does not work at this moment in time)....Its a vicious circle as if you do tr to reason he gets angrier than ever as he is so frustrated that he has no clue what i am saying..i may aswell be talking another language!