School Computer

Young_Aged_Pensioner

Hi hope someone can help. My daughter (10) came home from school today and as usual I asked how her day had been and she started to cry, asked her what was wrong and was told that when her and a boy in her class where looking on the school computer for information a picture of a naked womans bottom and legs appeared on the screen:eek: . She told the teacher and the headteacher and was asked questions about what happened and was told it would be looked into. How should I appproach the school about this since they havent phoned or gave me a letter saying this had happened.

Rachel85

The school are looking into it - what more needs to be said? Its likely that something has got through their blocker - that's not the school's fault. Its not a great situation to be in, granted. But noone's at fault, noone's been hurt. Move on.

gemz20

i think the school had a duty to let you no this had happened the teacher was aware it had happened as it has obviously upset your daughter its just common courtesy to inform you, i would be on the phone in the morning to find out why i hadnt been informed
I can fully understand it had got through a blocker and the school wasnt to blame but a quick word home wouldnt have hurt

geekgirl

Not exactly the same as your situation but I was working with a group of young adults (aged between 14 -17) and exactly this happened, but the pictures were very explicit oral activities shall we say. This was no-ones fault but I had to take action for my own safety in my job. I went straight to my manager and explained the situation and we made sure that parents or carers got the message of what happened.
I know for sure that non of these young people were harmed in any way by what they saw, they thought it was hilarious and they most probably have access to this sort of stuff in some way but I was making sure there was no comeback to me from this, or to our organisation as a whole.
I am really surprised the School have not done the same.

Pink_fluff

Why would the sight of a bare bottom make a 10 year old cry? Sorry if that sounds insensitive.

tamlem

Its not the sight of a bare bottom that would make a child cry necessarily its the fact that it will have been a sexualised sight of a bare bottom and with children at this young age that can be upsetting. I know plenty of adults who find !!!!!! distasteful. It is not about being prudish but about the way the human body is represented in !!!!!! and that would probably shock most young children.

I agree that the school absolutely should have told you about this, it's disgraceful that they didnt, imho. My son had a similar experience at a friends house at the same age and he was quite upset by it (the images were slightly more graphic by the sounds of it). We are not prudish and have normalised the human body and nudity but seeing it represented so sexually was quite upsetting for my son.

The school should certainly have informed you about what happened. I think you should speak to your childs teacher or the head just to make your concerns known.

sparkle03

If it concerns you then speak to the class teacher about it. My son is only 5 and we have to sign forms which say he can use the internet and the school have to sign them to say that they take precautions to make sure that things like this are not seen. However accidents happen and maybe it would put your mind at rest to ask the teacher what happened and what will be done to make sure this doesnt happen again.

Young_Aged_Pensioner

Just to let you all know phoned the school spoke to the head she appologised for not contacting me and has reported it to the council.

twirlypinky

Pink_fluff wrote: »

Why would the sight of a bare bottom make a 10 year old cry? Sorry if that sounds insensitive.

I don't suppose it was the bottom, it was probably being questioned by a teacher and then the headteacher. Remembering back to when i was 10, i would've found this mortifying and would probably have cried when i told my mum about it.

bestpud

It clearly slipped through the filters - it happens!

But they took it seriously when she told them.

Do they really need to be ring parents about something like this?

Use it to initiate a 'safe internet use' chat with your dd so there is at least a useful outcome, but otherwise, trust the school to sort it out.

We'll be told children cannot access the internet in school next, in case of psychological harm!

tamlem

"It clearly slipped through the filters - it happens!

But they took it seriously when she told them.

Do they really need to be ring parents about something like this?

Use it to initiate a 'safe internet use' chat with your dd so there is at least a useful outcome, but otherwise, trust the school to sort it out.

We'll be told children cannot access the internet in school next, in case of psychological harm."

If a ten year old sees a pornographic image in school time then of course parents should be told.

All children are different and depending on the nature of the image seen some may very well not be that bothered by it but the school cannot make that decision alone. A parent needs to be informed because if the child is upset, worried or it creates questions about sex, bodies or whatever then they need to be able to deal with that with their child. Again, some children might openly tell their parents what they have seen but others may be worried about it and keep it to themselves because they feel embarrassed etc.

Its not a case of not trusting the school to sort it out in terms of their internet security it is a case of ensuring the child involved is not concerned by what they have seen.