Anyone going through this alone??

jellygirl_2

Energised wrote: »

What a nice thred Jelly (I've got some Jelly in the fridge now, hurry up and set!)

It is difficult going through this on your own.

I don't really want to tell any of my friends, not because I'm ashamed or anything. I don't know, I guess I want to keep it to myself and it does get lonely sometimes.

Even when I'm with friends it feels like a lot of this stuff is on my mind and just can't wait to get the next three months out of the way.

Hopefully perhaps we can use this thread as a "We're on our own and trying to figure it all out" thread!

Thanks energised. Im also waiting for the next few months to be gone - really looking forward to the summer when hopefully the worst of this will be over - chin up:)

jellygirl_2

pocketmoney - thanks for the comments:) i take it your going BR on Monday then? Take some encouragement from the people on this forum with you - hope it all goes well and smoothly for you - let us know if you can:)

skintsteve_2

Me and the OH are going through BR alone. Alright theres two of us, but none of us have been here, so we are aone. Jellygirl, ask what you need, start a diary of how you are feeling, or just read. there are hundreds of people on here going through the same as you. You will be amazed with this forum:D

jellygirl_2

worriedsick wrote: »

I am also on my own coping with this BR and must admit that I have found this site is a great comfort although at times I feel very niave and stupid - like Lensman said I have also told all my friends etc but they never understand how low I feel nor the feelings I am going through which can be very hard on your own - a lot of my friends say I am stupid to worry and just tell me to get as much out of the BR as possible - which is not like me - I suppose some people are hard and cope with anything - I am not like that I worry to much so coming home after a long day at work to an empty house with nobody to share your thoughts or feelings with is very difficult but I cannot thank this forum and the lovely people enough as it does help especially when they understand how you are feeling

I can totally empathise with what you say - especially about the going home from work thing. Yes and I worry too but Im finding a lot of comfort here on this forum - its making all the difference so maybe I wont go barking mad after all:)

jellygirl_2

Thanks startagain - its very encouraging to have such knowledge and friendly advice on here - comforting words also from people going through the same thing - I will do a diary entry I think to keep a log of how my situation develops - would like to help as I have and continue to be helped by people like yourself:)

jellygirl_2

Lensman wrote: »

Hi jellygirl.

Good thread

I am on my own here too. But I have told the world (well, friends and family) that I may be bankrupt - although I can't discuss feelings with them. I just say "yeah, fine" even when I am really down. Like dalip said about her OH, I have no hope that they would understand.

This forum is my main support and the experience would be much much worse without it. Thanks all of you for that :A.

Good luck with your situation. Keep us posted. And don't worry about posting when you're really down, I've done it. We are here to help.


Jim

Thanks lensman - Im so encouraged by the many people on this forum - it really is helping me to make some sense of this situation and to plan my way through it - although sometimes I temporarily lose the plot - but I guess thats ok and its a rollercoaster ride anyway. Thanks for the help:)

keepmyhouse

I have three young kids, but other than them Im alone:-(

jellygirl_2

keepmyhouse wrote: »

I have three young kids, but other than them Im alone:-(

Hope you are coping ok;) Ive been talking to my dog about it:D Youre not alone on here - like you I want to keep my house too - will be gutted if I have to give it up.

keepmyhouse

Ive had my house on the market for over a year, not one viewing, I cant see the OR having any more success, and surley he wouldn't sell it below what I owe????? Theres no sence in that x x

Lensman_2

jellygirl wrote: »

I can totally empathise with what you say - especially about the going home from work thing. Yes and I worry too but Im finding a lot of comfort here on this forum - its making all the difference so maybe I wont go barking mad after all

Going barking mad is not an option. End of story.

Nobody deserves to feel like that, no matter what their situation or responsibility for it.

You need to know what substance lies behind those letters jellygirl. Very little is the truth. Have a good read of previous posts and get yourself "the knowledge". Once you do, you can read them for what they really mean. Write effective letters to deal with the worst bullies. And know exactly what they can and cannot do.

You need to feel a whole lot better about getting home in the evening and opening a stinky letter or two.

Keep your chin up. And know that the way you are feeling now is just not acceptable. All the resources you need are here to get it sorted.

Jim