What do you think?

Cookie_monster_7

My OH and me have 3 weddings to attend this year...one of which is our own :j (if we ever get round to arranging it ), I am a bridesmaid at one and the other is OHs brother's and OH is best man. The wedding at which I am a bridesmaid is a weekend affair at a hotel and we are expected to pay £380 for the 2 nights accomodation :eek: then of course there are presents, clothes, travel etc to think of. I say that these events build memories and we should go for it and enjoy it, my OH says that as we don't own our own home yet or in fact any furniture (we are in furnished rented accomodation) and he has been made redundant we should not be staying in the acommodation and just turn up on the day saving ourselves £400.

What do you think?:o

princessdewdrop

if you can't afford it you can't afford it...i just always think to myself, what else could that money buy? if you need to stay over cos of the distance, is there anywhere cheaper near by?

January20

It really depends how much you want to stay in the hotel, how much of the celebrations you would be missing by not staying for the 2 nights and of course there is the financial consideration: can you afford it?

I would advise you to be very careful in your decision because if you really really want to have the full wedding experience and your oh talks you out of it, you may end up being very resentful towards him. (speaking from experience).

ailuro2

Go for a compromise - find a cheaper hotel close by, save £300;)

No point spending money you need for other things on what is really just entertainment, when you think about it.;)

peachyprice

I think compromise is needed.
I take it the accomodation is the night before and the night of the wedding. Could you go down the morning of the wedding, early ish so you still get to see people before the actual wedding, and depending on the costs for 1 night stay at the wedding hotel, or one nearby.

Emmzi

having bridesmaided last year I'd say having accepted the role, your bride may be relying on you - for me it was more than just turning up on the day, there was lost of running round and calming down to do! Same for best man, I suspect.
I'd bow out of the role if you really can't afford it.

LJM

if you cant afford it there is no point in running up a bill i agree maybe explain situation and just turn up on the day or find a cheap b&b for the nite before

Lunar_Eclipse

Cookie_monster wrote: »

My OH and me have 3 weddings to attend this year...one of which is our own :j (if we ever get round to arranging it ), I am a bridesmaid at one and the other is OHs brother's and OH is best man. The wedding at which I am a bridesmaid is a weekend affair at a hotel and we are expected to pay £380 for the 2 nights accomodation :eek: then of course there are presents, clothes, travel etc to think of. I say that these events build memories and we should go for it and enjoy it, my OH says that as we don't own our own home yet or in fact any furniture (we are in furnished rented accomodation) and he has been made redundant we should not be staying in the acommodation and just turn up on the day saving ourselves £400.

What do you think?:o

Given the circumstances as outlined above, I agree with your OH. There is no way I would unnecessarily spend £400 on a hotel if one of you has just been made redundant (regardless of everything else), unless you have huge savings and this is a priority.

But there is no reason why this should impact on your respective roles in the wedding parties.

Bogof_Babe

Are you the only (adult) bridesmaid?

lynzpower

Could you not get a better hotel deal nearby? Travellodges are from £9 a night, im sure you could find something- even a taxi & £9 travellodge a lot cheaper.

When I was planning our wedding - the nights in the hotels themselves are horrendous, im sure in these credit crunch times it wouldnt be impossible to satay elsewhere, im sure most people would be doing it? Wouldnt they?

belfastgirl23

Could you share with the bride the night before the wedding (assuming they're being traditional about the groom not seeing the bride) and your husband turns up on the day? I must admit it does usually seem worth the indulgence of staying there the night of the wedding although if it has cheaper accommodation very nearby then I'd consider that either.

Alternatively do you have any other broke friends who might be prepared to double up in a room?