Guests getting to wedding

smartie12

paddingtondoo wrote: »

I'd say let her sort herself out - I even forgot to sort out how the groom was getting there :rotfl:.

Actually thinking about it I don't know how he got from the hotel to the hall .

Will she be wanting you to sort out what she should wear next?

She did actually say that she hasn't got anything to wear yet!:rotfl:


Thanks for all your replies:)

I'm getting last minute wedding stress:eek: :eek: :eek:

chalky_75

NO, NO, NO , NO, NO, I am sure you are a really lovely person --- please do not let YOUR big day be spoilt by the selfishness of others. I am sure you have already thought of as many little gestures as you can

SugarSpun

No. How ridiculous and rude!

I'm thinking about that because a few of my friends are travelling for my wedding, and I'm hoping to match them up with local friends so they have a sofa to sleep on and such like. They'll presumably have lifts everywhere in that case - but if they stay at a hotel they're on their own.

I've been to weddings and not known anyone but the bride and groom, and taken a taxi to the ceremony then begged a lift from a guest with a car to the reception. There seems to be a social expectation that if you're driving you look around for people that have no cars and bring them with you.

But then I also once got a lift to a wedding in the bride's limo. I was looking after her husband's daughter on the day, and the promised lift for me never materialised so she just dragged me into the limo. It was glamorous. We stopped at Wal Mart in all our glam finery and bought toilet paper, for no reason other than because we could.

RoxieW

we put on a coach for guests that were within the same locality (10 mile radius) which was the majority of family and elderly relatives. this was then available to take people to the reception and took people home at night. it cost about £400.

gill_81uk

It's definitely not your responsibility. Your friend probably isn't being rude - she maybe just doesnt realise how much stress your're under. I certainly wouldn't have done before getting engaged!!

You should just politely reply and say you can't arrange a lift for her but maybe point her in the direction of someone she can.

You're obviously very good friends for you to be inviting her so don't risk falling out over it - another stress that you don't need!

1012donna

We put on 3 coaches for our reception to collect from 4 villages and take everyone to the reception in the next town and then home again. It used to be the 'done thing' where I lived and my mum wouldn't have had it any other way. Mind, I've been married over 10 years and things have definitely changed now. The recent weddings I've been to haven't had transport laid on and to be truthful I wouldn't expect there to be.

Don't feel pressurised into paying out any more than you have done.

skintchick

No you don't.

I had one guest ask me this but as she had come from Dubai for the wedding and was trying to get from Bognor to Oxfordshire having just lost her job, I did try to help but ultimately wasn;t able to.

Transport is the guests' own responsibility.

daleigha

i also think its the guests own responsibility, unless, for example, you are having the reception very far away from the ceremony, and where the majority of people live, then maybe put a coach on. a girl i used to work with was getting married about 100 miles away from where we lived, but her and her partners family were from there, so she organised a coach for all of us, but we had to pay for it.
maybe give people a list of places to stay, and bus / train times, if stations arent too far away from the ceremony venue and the reception venue, but i certainly wont be organising transport for every single person who comes to our wedding, as its close to where we live, and close to where the majority of people who will be coming live.

xx

FairyShazza

When we got married we sent an information sheet with details of local hotels, a map, train information, directions and numbers for local taxi companies to all our guests.

It is not up to you to actually get people there but you can help as much as possible by giving them as much information as you can so they can plan their journey etc themselves.

It did amaze me when we got married that some people were ringing us the day before the wedding to ask questions about what time they could check into the local Travelodge, what taxi company was best to use and other such silly questions!

We did however arrange transport from our venue to the local hotels at the end of the night because our venue was in the middle of nowhere and they had warned us that trying to get taxis at that time of night was very difficult. In the end we arranged for 3 minibuses to take people back to the local hotels and paid a flat rate to hire them for an hour. This wasn’t expected of us though – we just decided to do it as we didn’t want people to get stranded at our venue when our reception finished in the evening.