Tuesday 9th-daily chat...mulled wine anyone??

whatatwit

Wonder if Sammy is cooked yet, her light has gone off, maybe she's gone to the 24hr Tesco for something to disguise the ginger

sallyx

whatatwit wrote: »

Wonder if Sammy is cooked yet, her light has gone off, maybe she's gone to the 24hr Tesco for something to disguise the ginger

ha ha now that would be a nightmare!

Gemmzie

No further hair dying news then?

immoral_angeluk

Love the hair bun, really suits you!

whatdoidonow

skint_spice wrote: »

My DS went to a nursery and loved it, you can get bad nurseries and bad childminders but it's best to do what suits the child and mine was a sociable wee soul who loved nursery but I know someone who moved her child from the same place because she was unhappy and she was happier with a CM.

they are even happier with mum!

my wife is a childminder who currently has a a 2yo and a 5yo plus our 3 kids. we have been amazed at the way parents behave, like sending the kids to her when the parents are on holiday! pretending that a child is "just alittle under the weather" whey they have D&V. Then having absolutly no consideration when my wife is ill yet they send the kids to her when they themselves are ill...most parents dont see this as a job, just an convenience.. in fact an inconvenience, often on less than minimum wage!

we have seen this with 3 sets of "professional" parents. They would be better off with a dog!

My wife is a caring loving childminder because it fits in with our kids and she is still at home for them. And her charges often dont want to go home with mummy and daddy!

Nurseries are a mystery to me..why would you want to dump your baby when only months old??? Is a career really worth that?

Ask a teacher if they can spot the difference between a nursery child, a childminders child or a parented child.

Do your kids a favour, stay at home and love them!

skint_spice

maybe I'm taking this too personally but I get the impression you think all parents - sorry mothers - who work are doing the worst by their kids.
I am now a single mother, my apologies that I went back to work when I had DS but if I had thought for one moment that he'd suffered in any way I'd have stayed home. Then again if I'd stayed home I'd be scrounging off the state so I can't win can I? I have as many holidays with him as I can and I'm currently in a job that I could move on from and earn more but I don't as I need the flexibility to care for him.
Please think before you post next time.

whatdoidonow

skint_spice wrote: »

maybe I'm taking this too personally but I get the impression you think all parents - sorry mothers - who work are doing the worst by their kids.
I am now a single mother, my apologies that I went back to work when I had DS but if I had thought for one moment that he'd suffered in any way I'd have stayed home. Then again if I'd stayed home I'd be scrounging off the state so I can't win can I? I have as many holidays with him as I can and I'm currently in a job that I could move on from and earn more but I don't as I need the flexibility to care for him.
Please think before you post next time.

I would not accuse you of being a scrounger at all!

I am so saddened that successive governments have encouraged mums let alone single mums to get to work asap, when half the time the tax payer is funding child care, so whats the point? Stay at home for 4 years or so, enjoy your kids, you only get one chance and it flys by.


I would never ever trust someone else with my kids and believe me we have gone without to make sure mum stays at home.

Good luck with your choice

skint_spice

It's a bit much to say you'd never trust someone else with your kids if your wife is a childminder. Surely you'd trust her and there must be others like her surely?
The tax payer is not funding my childcare, I have a reasonably paid job, generous holidays and I'm able to work from home some of the time too.
Many studies have shown that kids who go to nursery are better socialised and happier when starting school. I think you are very blinkered in your views and you don't seem to take into account that it's often difficult in professional fields to return to work after a four year break because of changes in technology or legislation.
It is actually possible to work and still parent despite the implication of your earlier post.

sallyx

I totally agree Skint

whatdoidonow

skint_spice wrote: »

It's a bit much to say you'd never trust someone else with your kids if your wife is a childminder. Surely you'd trust her and there must be others like her surely?
The tax payer is not funding my childcare, I have a reasonably paid job, generous holidays and I'm able to work from home some of the time too.
Many studies have shown that kids who go to nursery are better socialised and happier when starting school. I think you are very blinkered in your views and you don't seem to take into account that it's often difficult in professional fields to return to work after a four year break because of changes in technology or legislation.
It is actually possible to work and still parent despite the implication of your earlier post.

look its not a pop at you as you try to spend more time with your child.

Indeed there are good childminders, but theres the chance you take as my wife would tell you because she knows some terrible ones that have glowing osftead reports.

Studies have also shown,They are often more agressive and insecure. And (child of the new century) that nursery kids are up to 20% behind when it comes to school work, one of my wifes charges said infront of his parents that he hated nursery, he was bullied and shouted at they never knew! Just the smiling faces when they were dropped off.

My own daughter from a previous marriage said she hated the wait until she was picked up at 5.45 so lesson learned.

Like I said, not a pop at you, I just hope others read this and think before going for 5 days a week.