Family Dispute

nickyhutch

Why are you letting your sister dictate whether you see your dad or not?

Mrs_Optimist

We don't seem to have the full story here - have you fallen out with your sister? Has she said the same thing to your brother? Are you in contact with your brother? Without knowing the full picture it is difficult to advise although you have my sympathy at this horrible time.

Stephb1986_2

I don't understand why your sister would want to keep away from you dad if you haven't fell out. You should go and see him if you want to its your choice at the end of the day you will regret it if you dont.

Steph xx

angellotz

it's you and your father that should dictate whether or not you see him, not your sister. you have as much right as she does! as far as i'm aware, if there is no will, the estate is split equally between the children?

mudgekin

At the end of the day, he is your father and no matter what your sister says, please please do not pass up the chance to say goodbye. This more than any financial issues will forever eat at you.

At a time like this the money and estate are secondary, what is important is the peace that you have done the right thing by your father. Sadly it sounds as though there will be wrangling obver the estate, but as has rightly been pointed out, if he dies intestate there are rules for the division of the estate.

My deepest sympathy is with you in this awful time ~hugs~

Paparika

A few years ago when my nan was dying of breast cancer, i wanted to go see her in hospital and my parents kept putting me off.

I had enough and asked my partner would he mind taking me to the hospital at the weekend, he said yes, sadly she died a few days later before i could go to her, she wasn't in a good way.

I regret listening to my parents, i wish i had gone regardless.

I was allowed to go to her funeral, (i would of gone anyway) and i was so distraught i cried all the way through the service. (I was 36)

I didn't visit the family much in my adult life and i suppose i was a stranger to her, even though i was a favourite grandchild of hers, (fell out with my mum as a teen), was told by mum to keep away from family, so i did. regret this too, my parents have moved abroad now and i feel all alone (apart from my DS1 and OH)

I'm 38 (almost 39) now and feel like an outcast.

Don't let your sister dictate to you. This is your father and you love him and he loves you.

Mrs_P_Pincher

Well said Paparika. When my Gran was in hospital and I was living away I asked my Mum repeatedly whether it would be OK to go and see her and was always told that she was fine and I shouldn't go to the trouble. Then she died and I have always (22 years now) regretted not making my own decision on this rather than doing as my Mum told me.

If you and your Dad are OK and you want to see him - then go.

Mrs P P

rjm2k1

Perhaps your sister is attempting to influence your father in his will, possibly excluding you? Keeping you away would prevent you from finding out until it's too late. Why on earth would you keep away at your sisters request? Is there something missing from this story?