Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses?

Mrs7ones

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Mrs7ones - how awful for you and DD to be put under that pressure! *hugs*

it's actually far worse than this.. (i had a thread going about it all a while ago)
We were initially told that DH and our 2 DS's were expected to all rent morning suits too, but DH really put down his foot at that!!
And now we are the big bad spoilsports.
And just for the record, it's a rediculously lavish 'no expense spared' wedding and honeymoon........ phah!!

IWantToBeFree_2

I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses, their shoes and accessories. Not cheap either seen as I have having 5 bridesmaids and 4 flower girls. They will all be keeping their dresses too.

liza83_2

my budget didnt allow bridesmaids but my sisters wanted to be involved and actually offered to pay for their own dress.i am hopefully buying my baby sisters dress (shes 15)as a surprise as she is looking after the kids in the evening for me.

Sparkle80

I'm having four bridesmaids and a flower girl and we are paying for all the dresses and accessories etc. I wouldn't dream of asking them to pay for their own, however they did all offer at which we turned them down.

They will all be keeping theirs afterwards although to be honest, it's doubtful they will wear them again due to the style.

I've been bridesmaid twice before and haven't paid for either dress, both of which I've kept afterwards and they can be worn again, one of which I have done several times.

I guess it depends on your situation and budgets etc.

MissusF_3

Hiya, just wanted to offer my experiences from both a bridesmaid and a brides perspective,

My sis got married for the second time about 10 years ago, and she approached me and said she would love for me to be bridesmaid, but due to money issues, it was not really feesable (sp!). She was really quite upset so i offered to pay for my own, and it was absolutely lovely. Granted, i never wore it again and i think it's still in the depths of my mum's wardrobe never to be seen again! But i didn't mind paying for it.

When i got married last year, i had my nieces, nephew and god-daughter and i boiught their dresses from bhs for £60 which were non-bridey if you know what i mean, and are perfect for proms, etc (my nephew had a suit from the suit hire shop lol!!!!). I really wanted my three dearest friends to be bridesmaids too, but i knew i couldn't afford another 3. My 3 friends and i all went out one night and i was talking about the wedding, money etc etc, and wegot onto the subject of bridemaids. It was then (well, aafter a drunken emotional girly chat!!!!lol) that it was decided the girls would be bridemaids and they would buy their own dresses - they all told me it was a relief as they actually ended spending less on the bridesmaid dress than new outfits! We made a deal that if they were buying their own dresses, then i would not accept any gifts from them.

I really think each situation is different as relationships, budgets, needs, expectations and siutations are all so different from person to person. I think what you gotta do is do what feels right for you hun. There are some bridezillas out there (not in this forum, please don't read it as that!!) who dictate and don't give second thoughts to others, which is awful and can end in family probs for years to come.

Be honest, and talk to those close to you - i'm a big believer in that!

I hope you sort out your situation, and congratulations x x x

homeaway

My sister in law was a bridesmaid about five times at different weddings and she did not pay for the dresses and she still has them all in her wardrobe!
When i got married my maid of honour chose to wear an outfit that she already had and i was happy about that. If i had wanted her to wear something different i would have paid for it and let her keep it.

Fourcandles_3

All of the brides attendants clothing and accesories including jewellery is traditionally bought by the brides father. However you find a balance where you can. I didn't object to wearing my own earings and pendant, but I would not expect a bridesmaid to buy her dress.