RSVP etiquette

blonde36er

flowerscotland wrote: »

Not everything is so black and white in real life Have you READ evies posts

Yes my lovely, I have. I understand that not everything is black and white, coming from a family with more grey areas than I care to think about !

I was simply responding to Evie's point about her Dad not RSVPing, I certainly wasn't trying to excuse any of her other guests rudeness, nor her Dad's behaviour towards any other aspect of the wedding

x

Jem8472

We have had that, Did all our invites and gots some RSVPs by the date. But there are a lot that have not replyed. It does bug me but I am hoping some will reply later.

I cant understand why people cant just do an RSVP in time. Its not that hard

Kippy

you can't please everyone all the time, I'd tell them they'd missed the boat, and be thankful the miserable beggers aren't attendin and you and your OH concentrate on those who do want to be there and one another. Have a wonderful time and it's their loss.

Evie82

Thanks all,

I popped a note in the post with an evening invite to them, last week, havent heard anything back yet.

Timmne

For the few day invite people who didn't think it was worth replying to us to accept, we crossed them off the guest list - they were all people we weren't actually bothered if they came or not so this was a situation we were happy with. We didn't tell anyone they weren't coming but did tell the reception venue that if anyone turned up who wasn't set a place (at £80 each) would have to go to the restaurant next door and entertain themselves until the evening do.

Edit to add that we did include on the RSVP that we really must have replies back by a certain date due to time restrictions.

We did have one family who turned up - apparrently the dad (my uncle) had told his brother, who was then supposed to have passed this on to my dad (the third brother), which he didn't. I had a chat with my dad on the day when they turned up and we agreed that despite the message not getting back to us, it was still rather rude of them to casually accept via word of mouth, especially when we'd included our address, email addresses and phone numbers of all the wedding party in the invites!

Would be interested to see how you get on OP.

Also, remember that despite it being desperately clich! to say, you really will have the best day ever and these worries you're having now will be right at the bottom of your list of things to give a shiney sh!te about on the day.