**Sat 8th Nov** Daily Chat

SuSu1871

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

My friends tell me because I think no one fancies me I don't act available so blokes don't approach me.

One of my friends - when ever we go to the pub she always tells me off cos I look so snooty!

I don't mean too, its just how my face is!

Hey, if we knew what it was we'd do something about it wouldn't we? I sometimes think I'm not girly enough (I love football, Jack Reacher books, action films and the like) but I can't/won't change who I am for someone. I'd rather be single me than a coupled up copy of me.

Mainly, though, it's because my exes have all treated me pretty badly and my poor heart has gone on the defensive. It's like the saying that the best way to avoid a hangover is to not get drunk...

ZTD

LouiseJ wrote: »

They may have a point you know (not the snooty face bit):rolleyes:

You have to try and look available but not desperate.........difficult to master I know.

Eye contact...

LouiseJ wrote: »

Cant give you any tips really, I am just a wizzened old married crow:rotfl:

Tut! You're a babe...

ZTD

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hey, if we knew what it was we'd do something about it wouldn't we? I sometimes think I'm not girly enough (I love football, Jack Reacher books, action films and the like) but I can't/won't change who I am for someone. I'd rather be single me than a coupled up copy of me.

Not at all. There are loads of men who'd like that in a girl. And the ones who don't aren't for you.

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Mainly, though, it's because my exes have all treated me pretty badly and my poor heart has gone on the defensive. It's like the saying that the best way to avoid a hangover is to not get drunk...

:grouphug:

That's the problem. Sometimes it's not that we should learn a lesson from a relationship, but that we shouldn't learn a lesson - and just accept the hurt and treachery was a one-off.

But that is so difficult...

SuSu1871

Kids, I'm going to have to log off now. My wrist is really hurting (RSI, not anything saucy!) and I need to take more painkillers and get to my bed I think.

See you tomorrow?

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hey, if we knew what it was we'd do something about it wouldn't we? I sometimes think I'm not girly enough (I love football, Jack Reacher books, action films and the like) but I can't/won't change who I am for someone. I'd rather be single me than a coupled up copy of me.

Mainly, though, it's because my exes have all treated me pretty badly and my poor heart has gone on the defensive. It's like the saying that the best way to avoid a hangover is to not get drunk...

yep, I am with you on all counts. I don't really know why I want a boyfriend. they only ever cause me hassle in varying degrees of nasty.

and I have appalling taste in men.

tbh with two jobs, my Mum and sets of friends that don't mix much I wouldn't have time really. And cos i never go out anywhere new I don't meet any one outside the group? so I really don't think its a possibility.

hmmm. I need a new focus.

xx

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Kids, I'm going to have to log off now. My wrist is really hurting (RSI, not anything saucy!) and I need to take more painkillers and get to my bed I think.

See you tomorrow?

yep same time same place xx

ZTD

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Kids, I'm going to have to log off now. My wrist is really hurting (RSI, not anything saucy!) and I need to take more painkillers and get to my bed I think.

See you tomorrow?

See you tomorrow. And take care of your wrist...

SuSu1871

ZTD wrote: »

Not at all. There are loads of men who'd like that in a girl. And the ones who don't aren't for you.



:grouphug:

That's the problem. Sometimes it's not that we should learn a lesson from a relationship, but that we shouldn't learn a lesson - and just accept the hurt and treachery was a one-off.

But that is so difficult...

Thanks Z - you certainly know how to say all the right things tonight :kisses3:

ZTD

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

yep, I am with you on all counts. I don't really know why I want a boyfriend. they only ever cause me hassle in varying degrees of nasty.

I hear that quite often. I'm surprised how common it is. Maybe common decency is like common sense, if it truly was common we wouldn't have a name for it...

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

and I have appalling taste in men.

One of the tests is: Has he ever said anything that didn't suit his purpose?

Buffythedebtslayer

ZTD wrote: »

I hear that quite often. I'm surprised how common it is. Maybe common decency is like common sense, if it truly was common we wouldn't have a name for it...



One of the tests is: Has he ever said anything that didn't suit his purpose?

feels stupid but doesn't get that last bit do you mean siad/done some thing he didn't want to do?