Eating issues with my Daughter

Threebabes

I think you feed her very well. Her diet sounds really good. I wouldnt worry about the odd bit of chocolate or biscuit.

A lot of babies/toddlers have pots bellies, my dd isnt overweight shes nearly 5 and shes got a pot belly, as has my other dd who is 8, shes very slim as well.

PurpleMunchkin

Thanks to all those that have posted. Its good to hear that everyone thinks im doing ok by my daughter. I took my daughter to the HV last month and her weight is still on track, although still very below the average, but then she always has been.

I agree with you wholeheartedly BelfastGirl, the issue is mine and i know my husband didnt mean any harm by what he said. I also know that ive over-reacted to his comments but im so worried that i will end up passing the wrong message about food onto my daughter. When its such a big issue for me, and who ive become how will it not affect my daughter.

God, im getting all emotionally writing this, it just shows that theres things there i need to work through - but how do i start. My weight has been an issue that i have (maybe not successfully) dealt with as long as i can remember how can i change who i have become ??? :rolleyes:

I would hate to think my daughter has to go through the same for the next 30 years !!!! I also know that ive got to carry on with her exactly as i have been and not let my husbands comments change the way i feed her etc.

Thanks again for all your help.

cuffie

I read this with interest. I too don't want to pass my weight issues onto my daughter. I grew up watching mum never eat dinner with us, and surviving on black coffee with sweetners and chewing gum!! That has affected me SO much and I know I will always have a problem with it. My daughter is actually big for her age, but I make no issue of it whatsoever. She is not overweight - just a bit bigger than others in her class but she does so much exercise. Dancing, swimming, cycling, and generally rushing around. As long as you give them a good diet (which you are) and they are getting plenty of exercise you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I just wish that was the same for me when I was younger..... xx

onlyroz

Sounds like the diet is fine - and as long as your child is in the "normal" region of the height-weight charts then I'd say there's nothing to worry about. Also, it's not uncommon for toddlers to look a little on the chubby side - my boy looked quite chubby at 2 but now, at 3, he has started to lean out as he becomes more energetic and is able to run about with better coordination. Going to nursery, where he runs about all day, certainly helps keep him fit.

As long as you're not filling your daughter full of junk, and she gets plenty of fruit and veg, and plenty of exercise, then she should be OK.

NAT.B_2

Hi, My son was really chubby when he was two, but lost it fairly quickly.Just echoing what every one else has said. If your really that worried talk to your HV/GP with hubbie there.

sooty&sweep

Hi

I think your daughter's diet sounds fine. Lots of fruit and veg etc

If you get her weighed by the HV also get her height checked because their weight and height should be roughly the same on the centlie charts i.e. a below average height child should be below average weight.

Both of mine were born with a weight around the 90th centile but they are both around the 5th centile now. Initially they were concerned with my son but when they checked his height he's a small child and so his weight is proportion.

My daughter is nearly three and she is still in 12-18 month trousers and 18-24 tops.

Jen

gravitytolls

She sounds perfectly delightful in every way to me. I suspect because you've battled with eating, and you've been so sringent in ensuring your daughter has been kept safe from developing the same issues, that a comment has set off your own paranoia.

Nobody saying, 'oh, she's fine' is going to chase that away overnight, I think you're going to be troubled for a while longer, and I would think at various times throughout the stages of her growing up.

Often just before a growth spurt, children gain a little weight, and may even look a little chubby, then a few weeks later you realise they're no longer chubby but nothing fits very well, and you need to pay a swift visit to Primark!

Anyhoo, for what it's worth, it sounds like you're doing a fabulous job with her diet, and I think she's a very lucky little girl.

Paparika

Stop!

She's just 2 years old, all children go through a slightly tubby stage and it will all balance out, whats gonna happen when she gets her puppy fat as a teen (you know this is normal too).

Her outfit was to small for her by the sound of it and that's all.
Men are never subtle, they are blunt and straight to the point whereas females tend to be more sensitive.

Please please please don't restrict what she eats now if she is eating healthy food, last thing you want is for her to have food issues later.

Ishtar

You sound like you're doing a fantastic job! Don't worry about what your OH has said - they are sometimes as subtle as a brick....

Your daughter's diet sounds appropriate, and as long as she's not hungry, then you've nothing to worry about.

My daughter is 4 next month and some of her clothes are labelled for 2-3 year old. She's as thin as a rake, but eats like it's going out of style...at one point the HV thought I was effectively starving her, and I had to keep a food diary to show what she was eating. Needless to say, the HV went very quiet when she saw it.

Sounds like you should keep going as you're going.
Take care
D.

Vik

Hi, I don't have children, but similarly to Cuffie have grown up with a mother who was constantly on a diet and while being overweight herself would always make comments, along with her mother, about how so and so had put on weight or lost weight or whatever and in my mind as a kid, how much someone weighed was always seen as part of their self worth. This put the message in my mind very early that skinny = good, fat = bad. Just please don't be too paranoid about what she is eating and if you do restrict what she is eating, because of your paranoia, this might bring all sort of issues up for her later in life. Good luck.