should grandparents get a share of csa money?

markeymark

i pay csa thru DEO, like many on here i have arrears included in this and also subject to phasing (which works out an extra £8k over the 5 years for my ex)

My daughter only lives with her mum sunday night to thursday night, the rest of time is split between myself and my mum and dad, they also have her most holidays

my question is would my mum and dad be entitled to a portion of the csa payments?

Boppy_2

markeymark wrote: »

i pay csa thru DEO, like many on here i have arrears included in this and also subject to phasing (which works out an extra £8k over the 5 years for my ex)

My daughter only lives with her mum sunday night to thursday night, the rest of time is split between myself and my mum and dad, they also have her most holidays

my question is would my mum and dad be entitled to a portion of the csa payments?

So there's 2 nights she isn't with her mum? So potentionally your parents have your daughter at most 2 nights a week through force or choice? What I am getting at is if you don't like the way things are then don't allow your parents to have your daughter or put your hand in your pocket and give them the few £££ it would cost to feed a little mouth for at most 3 days, 2 nights.

withabix

OP: No they shouldn't.

However, the amount you pay should already have been reduced by 2/7 to account for the nights your daughter spends with you (including with your parents), if the amount has been determined by the CSA.

You should be paying your ex 15% of your nett pay, less 2/7, ie about 10.7% of your pay after tax and NI etc. (assuming she is your only child)

If it is more than this, you need to apply to the CSA for a payment review.

If you are only paying 10.7% of your nett salary, then give your parents some of the other 4.3%!

Use the calculator in the link below to work out how much you should be paying your ex.

https://secureonline.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculate-maintenance.asp

dimbo61

with a DOE and 8k arrers I guess the OP in on CSA 1 ?
Therefore the 15% does not apply.
May well be paying 40% of his take home pay to CSA and IF mum on benefits the child will get £10 a week !!!
Still I would ask for reassessment if having child 2 nights a week

markeymark

first of all may i make this clear, yes i pay 40% of my wages, the reasons for arrears are because i had a verbal agreement to pay my first ex, but she then got csa involved and i trusted her and paid cash over to her, so no proof so i got hit with arrears

secondly im in favour of my parent getting my daughter on the weekends im working!! this is not a question about if they should have them

the problem with this board is that there are too many agrieved single mothers who seem to think because their ex's do not pay to support their child then it must apply to everyone, please take your heads out of the sand, not every NRP is like that and i am certainly not, as ive demonstrated in earlier posts

so my advice is before jumping in with both feet and asuming take the time to read my other posts and then make your judgements!!!

markeymark

found my previous post with regards to my situation

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=955893

lynzpower

secondly im in favour of my parent getting my daughter on the weekends im working!! this is not a question about if they should have them

totally agree.

Some people on this board are mental. I expect youd probably get slammed if your daughter had no or not enough contact with her grandparents as well. :rolleyes:

markeymark

thanks lynzpower

only reason i dont get my girls every weekend is because i work every second weekend

kelloggs36

If your daughter stays with your ex 5 nights per week and with you every other weekend, then you don't qualify for shared care technically because your parents have her for the other 2 nights per fortnight. You would get a reduction if your daughter stayed with you for the required number of nights - although if she is with your mum and dad, the CSA aren't to know she isn't with you do they? IN which case you could claim she is with you - if you see what I mean????

markeymark

thanks for the reply kellogs

ive already had the 1/7 deduction calculated off my payments, isnt much but id rather i was able to spend it on my girls than it going to my ex whom i know will just drink it

tamsin1982

hi mark i think kelloggs was saying you should try for a 2/7 deduction as thats how many nights the children are with you or your parents, but to say to the csa that they are with you on all of these nights