Hidden Disabilities Time To Fight Back

Horace

luxor, what you do when you see bags on seats is go to sit on them, they soon get moved:D

Taffyscot

Horace wrote: »

Taffyscot - I have every sympathy with you with regard to supermarket parking. That rude woman has a lot to answer for with her silly attitude. Whilst I don't park in a disabled bay, I have been known to park in the parent and child bays when I am with my mother. I can remember once when we parked in such a bay at the supermarket, we were told off until my mother cut the woman short and said "I have every right to park in this space, because this girl (pointing to me - then aged 39) is my child":rotfl: There's not a lot you can say to that.:rotfl:

Hahhahahah Horace what a laugh. I said to the woman that my hubby and I had 9 children between us and there was never such a thing in my day and it was good for the kids to walk. (Of course I never told her that we didn't even have a car and had to buy our groceries from wee town shops.) She said "well this is not your day is it grandma." You made me laugh Horace ta for that.

Taffyscot

morag1202 wrote: »

12 yrs ago a very good friend of mine was challenged in a supermarket car park - we both looked fit. She smiled sweetly and pointed to her blue badge and said "oh, you get one automatically if you have terminal cancer" We were still laughing abt the reaction she got 2 days b4 she died. The thing was, she didn't mean it as a put down and wanted the ground to swallow her up the moment she said it.

Omg how awful. My friend who died 2 months ago from terminal cancer would have loved that one. I have a friend right now with cancer and she says it is a nightmare going to the shops as she can't find anywhere to park and she is too weak from all the chemo to bother. I shall tell her to get a blue badge I did not think of that. Trouble is I do not know if she is dying I am too afraid to ask but she sounds terrible and I haven't seen her for a year. Taffy

mouseymousey99

always remember Luxor seats are for bums - not bags.....may be hard to tell the difference I grant you....
; )

Morag - are you really a Morag?? (I am)....

nanokitten

"oh, you get one automatically if you have terminal cancer"
It would be handy to know out of interest just how one goes about doing this. - Presumably if you have a terminal diagnosis you can apply for DLA under the special rules but I'm not sure if this will automatically entitle you to the higher rate of mobility allowance.
I bet if it is down to the discresion of the local council to issue a badge then it will vary from region to region, anyone know?

morag1202

nanokitten wrote: »

"oh, you get one automatically if you have terminal cancer"
It would be handy to know out of interest just how one goes about doing this. - Presumably if you have a terminal diagnosis you can apply for DLA under the special rules but I'm not sure if this will automatically entitle you to the higher rate of mobility allowance.
I bet if it is down to the discresion of the local council to issue a badge then it will vary from region to region, anyone know?

In my friends case, she did get HRMob cos she got free Tax disc too. They had 3 kids under 10 at the time and her OH took 6 mths off work but I never asked.

Mouseymousey - sorry I'm a fake! Lovely to meet a genuine one. Do you live any where near Loch Morar? I took the name from the folk tale. Perhaps we should chat in the Old crocks cafe over a wee dram!

dexyblue

I too am a sufferer of ignorance from people who think being disabled means being in a wheelchair ( no offence intended), sometimes from my own family!!!! My way now is to educate the younger people I come into contact with that Disability isnt always visible. I have an axe to grind at the moment with a local school regarding my 8 year old nephew who has had to have hearing pieces fitted, the only time in the schools history (probably) this has happened. So if you educate your younger members of your family then perhaps between us all we can educate a future generation as to the term Disabled!

freebie_junkie

i know exactly how you all feel! i have 2 hidden disabilities and peoples' attitudes are abhorent. i often need to use my radar key to use the disabled toilets and have been shouted at by other disabled people, toilet attendants and members of the public. its hard enough for me to go out and about and do 'normal' stuff without the fasict opinions of people whose understanding of disability ends at 'in a wheelchair'.

pipkin71

freebie_junkie wrote: »

i know exactly how you all feel! i have 2 hidden disabilities and peoples' attitudes are abhorent. i often need to use my radar key to use the disabled toilets and have been shouted at by other disabled people, toilet attendants and members of the public. its hard enough for me to go out and about and do 'normal' stuff without the fasict opinions of people whose understanding of disability ends at 'in a wheelchair'.

Agree with you freebie_junkie.

I have a physical disability, and people can easily see that I am disabled, so in that respect my disability isn't open to the scrutiny or downright nastiness some of you have faced, because of your hidden disability. I do think though that a lot of it stems from a lack of understanding, and it isn't just with regards to disability.

As a home educator, the negative comments others make is annoying to say the least and some bordering offensive, but I have to remember it is because of their lack of understanding more than anything.

In any event, comments others make are not right, even if they are not aware of a situation, and perhaps more awareness is the key to ending the comments people seem to think they have a right to make

countrymusicfan

blue_monkey wrote: »

My son is ASD, he does not have a blue badge or anything but I don't really take him anywhere as when he has tantrums , hit me or runs off it just makes it look like I cannot control him.

There is not enough understanding of Autism in this day and age.

There was a lovely couple on BBC news last week who are campaigning for more understanding on autism and what parents of autistic children have to go through.

DS has Aspergers which is a form of autism. When he was younger people in church use to say that he was a spoiled brat because of his temper and that there was nothing wrong with him. :mad: I had to fight to get his disability pass as he does not have middle rate mobility. I had to plead with the council people for it, luckily the man was very nice and understood:T . Now I have to sign on at JSA and pretend to look for jobs and hope I don't get them because I still can't seem to get middle rate DLA. Even though he has a lot of problems and might even get arrested because of his temper, I am not considered a carer by the government. It makes me furious.