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Ructions at Wittering Manor

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Firstly Tiger and SSA thank you fro your PMs

Ok an up to date post on life at chez Anne & OH, well firstly the OH has admitted to having an affair:eek: :eek: :eek: came to light whilst I was filling in his BR forms....must say it came as a shock and a BIG one at that, had this happened pre my BR and help with my Bi Polar I probably would have strangled him:D but it didnt impact as much as I thought it would thats the reason for my silence and non appearance.

So hes got all his forms filled out ready for his BR date in November, must remember to send him a bill for my assistance in filling them out :rotfl: :rotfl: so I hope all goes well with him.

Now me theres good news..Ive got off my !!! and found myself an admin job with MIND the mental health charity, just been there a couple of days but fingers crossed its going well so far:T :T , I was really open with them at the interview re my Bi Polar and they understand I may have good/bad days so lets hope its more good days.

Ex OH`s fancy peice has dumped him:confused::confused: and he thought Id be his shoulder to cry on...sorry M thats not the way the cookie crumbles in my world, we can be friends I think but dont think it will ever be on the same level again.
Have to sort out my practicalities, have rang my OR and said Ive started work so they are sending me out a form to fill in re my new income, might just scrape through without an IPO...on the housing front boy am I glad I hung on to my council flat and didnt move in with the OH Id be in a right mess accommodation wise if I had.

The councils fitted me some new fancy front and back doors with nice secure locks was due to be done anyway and Im getting a pleasant service with the HB/Ctax folk now theres a change in circumstances...Marshmallow thanks for all your advice re the housing, Ive finally had my tenancy confirmed its a secure one so least thats one worry settled.

Gosh what a rollercoaster ride its been the last couple weeks, ups and down and me nearly round the bend:rotfl: :rotfl: but Im surviving, all my pals have rallied round, my sisters are spitting nails re OH but he
wasnt all to blame we became complacent with each other and maybe its for the best as its galvanized me off my bum to be pro active and not take life for granted.

There were some ructions though...I threw a right good right hook when he told me and my language wasnt very ladylike so he scarpered for a while good job too cause I would have been done for manslaughter in the first half hour before I calmed down:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: and I had his credit card and went to Tescos and filled my trolley as high as I could with everything I would need to see me into my flat....shopping has never been such fun...have everything I need now for the next 6 weeks at least....hell hath no fury and all that :rolleyes: :rolleyes: .
Having calmed down and seeing straight:rolleyes: it doesnt feel that bad...Im BR and debt free , new start so positivity is the name of the game plus guess who I bumped into yesterday????? handsome bailiff who is no longer a bailiff had a cuppa coffee with him and asked him why hes no longer doing the dirty work of a bailiff he said it had gotten to him and he couldnt sleep at night and he was working back with his dad on his farm(wondered where those muscles came from:p ) and best bit was he asked for my mobile no woooo hoooooo.He rang this morning...we had a chat and said something about meeting up soon for a meal....will have to give this some serious thought, still its set my ole brown eyes twinkling and put a spring in my step.....

Theres lots of relationship casualties in this debt game of life,,, me being one of them.

When I get my first months wages I will post a new budget and you can all kick in with some advice...

So Im back, subdued but still standing and I can moan on here :D:D:D cause your all nice folk who helped me through my BR.

Anne x
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I know sometimes you feel so helpless/you cant go on/so isolated, well you need never feel that way again as a simple Can you help me please? on here is your first step to that journey of fresh starts, so hello Im Anne, your ? YOU ARE NOT ALONE in all of this, we have all been there, so come join us.
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  • Rylynn
    Rylynn Posts: 1,387 Forumite
    Well Anne where do I start, sorry your OH has done the dirty deed on you, good for you spending in Tescos! as you say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

    Glad you sorted out the flat and did not move in with him, that was a wise move! Hope the right hook hurt as well!

    Great news on the job I wish you well in it.

    And the baliff or ex baliff fancy bumping into him, and then having coffee, now that is unreal! but good luck with that as well. You need a spring in your step and a boost of confidence so go get it girl.

    Keep smiling.

    RL
    Some Days are Diamonds Some Days are Stones,
    Sometimes the hard times won't leave me
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    Banktupt 22 Oct 2008 at 10am!
  • Hi Rylynn

    Thanks...lifes bumpy but Im ok

    Anne
    BSC no 192
    I know sometimes you feel so helpless/you cant go on/so isolated, well you need never feel that way again as a simple Can you help me please? on here is your first step to that journey of fresh starts, so hello Im Anne, your ? YOU ARE NOT ALONE in all of this, we have all been there, so come join us.
  • skylight
    skylight Posts: 10,716 Forumite
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    Cor! Well, that knocked me for 6. (Not as much as you though!) We all have these Soap Reject episodes in our lives, don't we?? I call them Soap Rejects as real life can sometime be so unbelievable, even a soap writer wouldn't take our tales on board!

    Firstly, hope your hand is not too painful after the right hook. Just the one hook was it?? Lucky EXOH if it was! Secondly, so glad you didn't give up your own place. Thirdly, not sure how I feel about Bailiff Boy. I guess though that you have both seen each other at your worst, so no surprises to come!

    Nice one about the job! It sounds perfect - an understanding boss this time round. Lets hope things can settle down a bit now.
  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
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    Goodness Anne, what a colourful life you lead!

    It's good to hear you sounding so positive despite everthing that has happened. Fantastic news about the job, if anone will be asupportive and understanding employer MIND will be, what a great find.

    And what a little minx, you with your ex bailiff friend, a fantastic and well deserved ego boost, even if you decide not to pursue it, there's nothing us ladies like more than knowing we've still got it :D

    I do hope your ex OH doesn't get a BRU for reckless spending in Tesco so soon before BR :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

    Good to have you back :beer:
    Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear
  • Merry_Gentry
    Merry_Gentry Posts: 3,627 Forumite
    You sound extremely positive - good on ya!!! :beer:
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  • hi all

    thanks for nice posts...am sitting eating my Tesco stir fry c/o exOH and snuggling down amongst my new cushions from Tesco Direct:D :D
    3rd day at new job was good, its nice to be able to return to work mode.

    hey exOH if your peeking at my posts did the optician repair your glasses, AWitterings big foot stood on em by mistake.

    am not going to have a flutter with hunky bailiff hes kinda tainted in my eyes...still he was a handsome chappie...and he likes poor old moi shucks must be my new smile:D :D:D

    think its nice having sole control of remote and no more bleedin football on a saturday:T :T :T

    am messing about with my budget, workings not going to make me much better off but it gets me out of the house and meeting folk, plus I see folk in worse states than me so Im grateful that Im as near "normal" as normal can be.

    MIND have given me a work mentor for the first 3 months to ease me in,so far everything is good and positive...new start and all that....and I have access to the biccy jar :rotfl: :rotfl:

    A
    BSC no 192
    I know sometimes you feel so helpless/you cant go on/so isolated, well you need never feel that way again as a simple Can you help me please? on here is your first step to that journey of fresh starts, so hello Im Anne, your ? YOU ARE NOT ALONE in all of this, we have all been there, so come join us.
  • skylight
    skylight Posts: 10,716 Forumite
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    Access to the biccy jar??!! What a perk!! Stuff pensions, company cars, expense accounts.
  • I know....must remember to share the choccie HobNobs :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
    BSC no 192
    I know sometimes you feel so helpless/you cant go on/so isolated, well you need never feel that way again as a simple Can you help me please? on here is your first step to that journey of fresh starts, so hello Im Anne, your ? YOU ARE NOT ALONE in all of this, we have all been there, so come join us.
  • Sagz_2
    Sagz_2 Posts: 6,251 Forumite
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    Anne I haven't come across any of your other posts but just wanted to say I think you are bloomin fantastic!

    YOU ROCK GIRL !!
    Some days you're the dog..... most days you're the tree! :D
  • Glad your'e enjoying the job Anne, I must say I do enjoy your posts. You have a real turn of phrase.
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