Birthday present for V. pregnant lady?

KizzyK_2

Hi, my best friend is 2 weeks shy of her due date (25th :eek: ) and her birthday is the 20th, Ive had some ideas such as a box full of bubble bath / smellys / her fave things that is focused on her rather than the baby as she is also feeling very down (moody, emotional, anti social etc) about the whole thing now.
But I just want some advice from any other mums (or mums to be) about what they would have liked during the last weeks (birthday or not hehe), my friend lives in a 1 bedroom ground floor flat (with not much space), they dont drive and she doesn't wanna go out anywhere. I ask her ages ago if she would like some photos of her / boyfriend and 'bump' and she didn't. Getting her a red letter type thing for after the birth isn't any good as she doesn't like sport, spa days, make overs or anything like that so as you can see im really at a lost.
Im also having to be aware that the baby could be here by the 20th as early babys run in the family on both sides.
Thanks :xmastree:

fesdufun

In the final few weeks of pregnancy I would have liked something to occupy my mind. Daytime television gets a bit boring after a while. So perhaps some puzzle books, reading books, games for playstation or similar, videos.DVD's.

Or perhaps a labour survival kit with things in it like bed socks, a water spray, mini shampoo, shower gel, travel toothbrush or toothpaster, flannel etc. some high energy snacks and drinks - but perhaps this is too baby orientated as you said you wanted something to focus on her.

What about something that makes her feel special like a nice piece of jewellery.

Or why not treat her to a haircut, manicure or pre-pregnancy massage in a local salon. If you got vouchers rather than a specific voucher if the baby came early you could offer to babysit whilst she has a treatment.

HTH :rudolf:

Jay-Jay_4

At that stage I would've given my right arm for a facial, massage, spa, manicure etc.... are you sure she wouldn't appreciate it? Maybe she didn't like that kind of thing before but when you feel like a stuffed whale with swollen ankles and a huge heavy bump, you change

I agree that it's a tough one. Maybe have a look at the personalised gifts thread on here and get her something from there.

iwanttosave_2

it all depends how much you can afford to spend, i got one of those bath spa things, i think it was £25 for the JML one and i loved it, if she was only just a few months then she wouldn't be able to use it, but if she goes overdue she can use it to help start her off. I love mine and use it about once a week to de-stress, but i used it also at the end of my pregnancy to get rid of all the aches and pains.

Lillibet_2

I agree with Jay-Jay, I would have ripped a friends arm off for a home visit from a massuse in the final weeks (the thought of going into a spa or similar for one would have terrified me at that stage). An Indian head massage would be good as you don't need to lay on the bump, or a foot massage. Or a pedicure, 'cos she won't be able to get near her feet:rotfl: OK, actually I kept my toe-nails upto scratch until the day I gave birth, but it was a hell of a struggle with a 44 inch bump! Maybe you could get her spa vouchers, then she could chose whether to use them before or after the birth? Massages are a bit restricted during pregnancy due to positioning & the use of some oils being dangerous, but not out of the question & I can't imagine anything more heavenly torwards the end.

HTH

mummytofour

Well im getting one of these http://www.natalhypnotherapy.co.uk/1676/index.html

for my bday next week.

across

i was quite happy with loads of chocolate!!my birthday landed at the end of both my pregnancies and all i wanted was thorntons viennese truffles or big box of continental!!!!!! or to be pampered at the hairdressers just before due date because its a while until you can get there afterwards!!!!!hope this helps and good luck to your friend!

Gingham_Ribbon

I had reflexology a couple of weeks before the birth. Not only was it really relaxing but he was bum first and he turned straight after it.

I'm giving my friend a reflexology session nearer her due date. Accupuncture was also good. And a massage. Wonderful.

Of course, if you're really good friends, she may appreciate you shaving her legs and painting her toenails for her as I imagine she can't reach to do it herself. (My mum did this for me when I was heavily pregnant. She came round when I was feeling particularly well for a change and I went for a quick meal with my husband straight after. I had waddled across the entire restaurant and back before I realised one of my trouser legs was still rolled up. I couldn't see it. And my husband was too exhausted from looking after me to notice. :rotfl:)

Karnam

buy a really nice bracelet one that comes off easily like elastic if shes breast feeding it can be used to help her remember which one to let baby feed on next.

bylromarha

Throughly agree if she's feeling down at the moment you should get her something which is nothing to do with babies/pregnancy. I got a bit moody with my colleagues...although they meant well, they spent most of my leaving collection on presents for the baby, not me! I was leaving the place after 4 years of hard slog, worked my way to being on the management team, had handed in my notice to become a full time mum and the baby gets all the treats!!!!! Selfish I know, but I was leaving the job, forever, not just having a baby.

Anyway, moaning aside, if she doesn't want to go out, why not have a cocktail night in her flat. get loads of non alcoholic recipes (and one gorgeous alcoholic recipe if she hasn't cut out the juice altogether) have loads of fun making them together, watch something like Dirty Dancing (or maybe not because of the abortion...) Cocktail, Top Gun, basically a cheesy 80s classic, and just spend some time being girlies.

She'll be too exhausted with midnight feeds after the birth, so have a laugh together now. And ban baby talk! She may be like me and appreciate being "her" for a change rather than "expectant mum" (everyone assumes all you want to do is talk baby when you're pregnant and not all of us do.) We still have lives apart from the sprogling growing away!

Have fun.

ditzymuppet

Maybe you can take her out somewhere... make up a leaflet of promises...?

Offer to be a taxi service for the day.... run errands...


Failing that.. a big bunch of sunflowers always go down well, they are soo happy and smiley

You've got your work cut out though!! Buying a pressie that isn't Christmassy and isn't for baby!

good luck

~ditzy x