Both Parties Breaking Restraining Order

JoJoArmani

Hello

Can anyone tell me what happens in this situation?

Bro in Law and Wife got drunk had row. Police called. He acused of hitting her. Went to court - he pleaded guilty. Sometimes he says he did do something other times he says he never touched her. God knows. Anyway, think he just got a fine.

Got back together - they row all the time after booze.

Anyway 18 months later - same thing happens - but not acused of violence - just acused of harrasing her. He pleads guilty, gets a restraining order placed on him. She drove him to the court hearing as they we seeing each other again by this time.

They live apart but he goes to her flat and she goes to the house where he lives with MIL to drop of dog and collect dog (don't ask!).

So they are both breaking this restraining order. Its a joke. What a waste of time going to court etc etc. But can she get in trouble for going to see him as well as him for going to see her? What about poor MIL - she won't get in trouble will she?

Boppy_2

This kind of thing makes me mad when there are people out there who need the court time to get restraining orders because their lives are in danger.

I'd be tempted to speak to the non-emergency police and ask them, takes the mick really doesn't it? To be honest i don't think MIL would be in trouble, she can't stop 2 adults seeing each other.

JoJoArmani

I agree with you.

They have caused so much trouble for my MIL and still are. 2 years of hastle and agro. MIL's hubby died 4 weeks ago and as a result the 2 idiots got back together (he had been seeing someone else for 3 months) behind everyones backs. They turn up on her doorstep on Sunday night to announce they are getting abck together. How kind of them. MIL said how can you when you aren't even supposed to see each other until 2010? Which resulted in idiot no. 1 running off crying and idiot no. 2 going beserk in the house and causing damange to items.

How selfish can they be, the poor woman is grieving and all they can do is think about themselves and their lust - cos that's all it is lust. 2 years of rows prove they don't have a relationship.

God I'm so mad. I found out idiot no 2 had rung 0900 numbers from our phone when he stayed a couple of weekends while he was trying to sort himself out.

I am not doing another thing to help either idiot. Just hope MIL will kick him out!!

Sorry need to get it off my chest.....

mookiandco

She wont get into trouble but the courts going to take a very dim view of her if she ever alleges violence again. She is putting herself in that position so she has to take some responsibility. The brother in law is the fool here - he is just putting himself at risk of getting arrested if she decides he has annoyed her and wants to get her own back.

churchrat

I think that the responsibilty to stick to the order belongs to your bil, not his wife. if there is any further trouble and the police are called they will claim (rightly) that bil has broken it. but as mookiandco says the courts (and police) may decide to take a different view of wifes' situation if they end up in court again.
mil will not get into trouble, nothing to do with her.
but both of these "adults" should grow up.
good luck and stick to your guns!!!!!!!!!!!1111