convoluted family situation, advice anyone?

GlasweJen

I'm not much of a poster on the families board but i'm in a bind.

my sister is married with 2 kids and one on the way. She claims DLA for a birth defect and her husband claims DLA highest mobility for...well for not much if i'm honest but that's another story. We grew up in a step family as my biological father and his family were all fruitcakes, abusive, aggressive etc.

After biological gran died my sister started to see my bio grandfather again to look after our 40+ year old disabled aunt, grandfather is also disabled. Aunt has a mental age of about 7 and hits kids not realising she is hurting them, i was always under the impression that my nieces weren't going there but i have found out that they are being left alone with the abusive grandfather andmy aunt who can't help it.

I feel that my sisters kids shouldn't be down there, they did all sorts of horrible things to us as children and the abuse was physical as well as psychological. My younger niece already has behavioural issues which are currently being assessed by her pre-school. Social services were involved with my sister and her kids as she was aggressive towards her husband and the girls were talking about abuse of the younger daughter but they have just vanished out the picture as this started happening. At the time my sister confessed to taking drugs and i think she may still be on them.

My BIL and sister are constantly at the grandfathers house, BIL painting and decorating and sister moving and handling aunt who is a big lady.

I feel that aunt should have a proper care team from social work, a pregnant woman is not suitable for her. I also feel that social work should know that nieces are being left unsupervised with a violent man but i don't know how to get the social reinvolved with the kids and get them aware of my aunts needs without my BIL losing his DLA as it's obvious that a man who can paint and decorate a 4 bedroom townhouse is not unable or almost unable to walk.

any ideas on what i can do?

galvanizersbaby

Crikey I have no advice for you but I know you have to do something for your nieces x
Hopefully somebody who can help will be along shortly

ameliarate

Myadvice would be to phone social services. I am sure you can do that anonymously.

Those little girly clearly need some protection and if your sister and BIL get into bother well tough, they are adults they make their own choices.

churchrat

I really sympathise with your situation, but if you don't protect the children who will?
the children are so much luckier than you were when you were that age, cos they have somebody looking out for them, and that is you.
good luck with this, but I think that you already know that you have to do something, and are just gathering your courage.
if you are unable to phone with your name then just call soc services without leaving your details, they will still have to act, the adults can take care of themselves.

GlasweJen

i don't care much about my BILs DLA award but my sisters always pleading poverty even though there's tonnes of money going into the house never a penny spent on the kids though. She calls mum and tells her that she can't buy DN1 school stuff because of a huge electric bill or something and mum doesn't want to see the girls go without.

How would i go about calling social services? is it a general number or does it vary by area. I live in a different area to my sister who lives in a different area from grandfathers house.

elisamoose

GlasweJen wrote: »

i don't care much about my BILs DLA award but my sisters always pleading poverty even though there's tonnes of money going into the house never a penny spent on the kids though. She calls mum and tells her that she can't buy DN1 school stuff because of a huge electric bill or something and mum doesn't want to see the girls go without.

How would i go about calling social services? is it a general number or does it vary by area. I live in a different area to my sister who lives in a different area from grandfathers house.

You need to contact social services in the area the children live in .Alternatively you could contact NSPCC.

cobbingstones

Hi I totally agree with the other posters. Call the SS and ask to speak to the duty officer.

Well done for protecting these children!

MM