Is this allowed

SuziQ

QUOTE]If my daughter claimed in her own right which she could my ex would lose the CB and CTC and CM for daughter so my ex would be worse off.[/quote]

Clearly you want your ex to be worse off.

My ex works full time so isn't on IS.

Good for her-it makes it even more admirable that she is supporting your daughter and grand-daughter. Surely you want them to have the maximum available to make life liveable?

I wouldn't want my daughter to end up in a position where she would have to pay money back that is wasn't entittled to.
Your daughter isn't earning,so clearly,if there is any paying back to do,it will fall to your ex!

I am sorry your living conditions are reduced. Many men are in the same situation following marriage breakdown. However looking at the age of your daughter,you will very soon surely be 'off the leash' and will be able to rebuild your life moneywise. Despite having 3 children,2 at school and 1 at Uni, I am likely to lose my house shortly due to the behaviour of my soon-to-be-ex. I owned the house before I ever met him but such is life. This is the terrible price many of us pay for relationship breakdown and there isn't really any point us complaining as it doesn't change anything! In your situation I would just be grateful for the welfare state and the fact that your daughter is in a safe place,supported and not coping on her own with a young baby as many young girls are.

Could you not sit down and talk to your ex? This could be a great oppurtunity to rebuild bridges and unite you as parents and grandparents. Without trying,you will never know what the reception might be.Tell your ex what you have said here-you appreciate everything she is doing whilst working full-time but you are concerned that she may have misunderstood the rules and you are worried either she or your daughter could be hit with a repayment order.

ETS: something rang bells here and I looked back at your previous posts,which all centre on this same subject but asking the question in a different way! You must have contacted the relevent departments now to ask the legality of this? If not,why not? It obviously really bugs you,as you accuse your ex of spending your CM on weekends away. Many pwc seem to do this,forgetting of the daily grind of supporting cjildren and keeping a roof over their head. She is using HER money to support her daughter and grand-daughter-rent/mortgage,utilities etc-your CM basically goes into the pot with everything else. As I have already said your ordeal with CM is almost over anyway,and you are wasting a lot of energy and peace of mind harbouring resentment about this. If I was you I would just let it go,try to develop a relationship with your ex that would I'm sure make your daughter happy and carry on supporting your daughter however you can. She may not show gratitude yet but I'm sure she will as she gets older.

Children don't ask to be born,and they don't ask for their parents to split up. Family breakdown causes untold misery for the children involved-the biggest regret I have is putting my children through this,even though I have worked hard to keep an amicable relationship with their father.Whatever we can do to support our kids in this situation is our duty and should be done with a happy heart. You clearly are a loving responsible father and your daughter is very lucky to have 2 supportive parents.

Verianna

You may well find that your ex/daughter have been advised to do this. Only your daughter can claim the childcare monies as she is the student not your ex!

No doubt your daughter is claiming EMA.

So yes in answer to your question they are fully allowed to do what they are doing. Currently as you have outlined it only the mother is claiming for both the child and the child of the child, your daughter is receiving the care to learn award. They are not both trying to claim tax credits at the same time for the baby.

In all honesty it sounds like you are just cross that your ex is getting money for your daughter and her baby, money she is fully entitled too while you are still having to pay maintenance

mummytofour

Slight off topic...

I just wanted to sing the praises of care to learn, they paid out for my children last year which enabled me to pass my Access course. Without their help I would not be at Uni now. Thanks care to learn and it goes to show the gov does get some things right.

I wish your daughter all the luck in the world and I hope she carries on at college, getting an education will mean she will be in a situation to support her daughter one day without the help of the state (hopefully)