09:13 and no daily chat thread? 23rd September

Mrs_Dawn

Evening all, just a quick visit, just caught up with today's goss, I've given up trying to keep up, as I miss most weekends, because the rest of the family are on here and evenings I'm trying to keep up with my flyladying - I miss most of your gossip.

But I will endeavour to try and pop in every evening-maybe I should add this to my flylady list of things to do dailies:p .

I'm off out shortly to the cinema with MIL and SIL to see Mama Mia finally:rolleyes:
Hope you all have a fab evening, hope you all do fine with any courses etc.

Will pop in tomorrow. Bye!!!!!!!!!!:D

(Land_of)_Maz

mamma mia is fab mrs dawn!

Gemmzie

Definitely fab! Have fun

I'm so tired, I could cry, it's at least two hours before I can actually go to bed though

notanothergreyhair

Aww Gemmzie...big hug for you.

sammy115

Why can't you go to bed Gemmzie!

Bunnyinthelights

Hey all!

Food heaven pretty much everything but love lemons, crisps (esp salt and vinegar), chinese and Sunday lunch.

Food HELL: aubergine (gack!) liver and black pudding.

How's everyone?

notanothergreyhair

sammy115 wrote: »

6. Maybe NAGH can explain a few things to me at the meet..I am definitely going this time.

I missed this bit earlier...what is it you want to know?

(Land_of)_Maz

guys - i need advice..... i have drafted this letter... does it seem OTT... fairly self explantory

Dear headmistress,

I am writing to make you aware of some concerns I have that Erin may be the victim of bullying, and I am looking for school support in dealing with this.

Erin is regularly coming home from school and from out playing in the village, upset due to the actions of her peers. She is generally excluded from games and activities but occasionally when she is allowed in the group, she is almost certainly excluded again within a short time (“bombed out” – to use her terminology). Part of the problem is that Erin craves friendship and repeatedly puts herself back in the same position by attempting to play with the same children again, and so the cycle continues.

We try to give Erin activities and a busy schedule out with the village, i.e. Brownies in Auchenblae, Peesies in Arbuthnnott, swimming in Stonehaven etc. but she still looks forward to playing out in the village and we don’t want to deny her this as we know we are lucky to live in a village where kids can play at a much younger age than she would if we were in a city/town.

When these “bombing out” instances happen, we have until now just gee’d her up again and diverted her attention in some way, but these exclusions are getting more aggressive in nature and despite making the parents of said children aware of this, it is not getting dealt with.

Up until recently Erin has always felt relatively secure at school. However in recent days she has made me aware there have been instances where she has been treated unkindly within the playground, and on at least one occasion when she approached a member of staff she was told to “stop being a clipe”. I’m sorry but this is wholly unacceptable and does not strike me in any way as zero tolerance against bullying.

I appreciate that the problem within the village cannot be dealt with at school but perhaps if the school were to monitor, support and encourage reasonable behaviour in other children towards Erin this would make her life a lot easier, and perhaps improve village life in time.


I do not necessarily think that these children will ever be friends with Erin as such, as you cannot force people to like a person but it is breaking my heart to see her so upset on a regular basis. I would appreciate it if you would be frank with me and tell me if you think Erin is worsening the problem in any way, but I can honestly say I have never seen her be anything apart from grateful for the attention of other children. All I crave for her is to have a good friend who she can walk to and from school with and who would not be so readily influenced by the group bullying tactics.

I am writing this as a letter, rather than contacting the school directly because

A) I do not trust myself not to get upset about it.
I wish for a formal response to the letter, rather risk letting myself be verbally fobbed off.

I await your early response,

Kind regards,

Gemmzie

sammy115 wrote: »

Why can't you go to bed Gemmzie!

It's too early Sammy, I'd never sleep through

Gemmzie

Good letter Maz, direct and makes your point well