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HELP:UP s**t creek!

bobblebot
bobblebot Posts: 155 Forumite
edited 27 June 2009 at 5:08PM in Benefits & tax credits
Well I got married 3 weeks ago to my BF of 2 years-we didn't live together he said he wouldn't till he was married. We have an 8 month old baby that he I had been bringing up financially myself. I also have 4 kids from prior marriage that again I get no support or maintenance from father.

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  • if you explain to them and go 2 a lawer and get a divorce.you are so better off without him goodluckxxx
  • my friend is still married to her husband even though they sp[lit up 5 years ago and she gets benifits
  • SomeBozo
    SomeBozo Posts: 1,195 Forumite
    May I suggest you go talk to the Benefits people. No point in hiding it, they will only find out and then want off you to pay it back.

    You now have 6 children?

    Bozo
  • simpywimpy
    simpywimpy Posts: 2,386 Forumite
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    I'm so sorry to hear what your other half has done to you. Not what you need with a new baby and one on the way is it.

    Remember that you are worth more than this x

    As for the benefits, I wouldn't bother telling tax credits myself. I had a similar problem and just kept it to myself and saw a solicitor to get the marriage annulled. The Citiziens Advice Bureau would help you find someone in your area to help with it.

    I don't think you need to inform benefits unless he comes to live with you, otherwise your circumstances haven't changed. You're still living alone with the children and the benefits are worked out on that.

    I would seriously consider going through the csa if he's working. He's got the best of both worlds at the minute. It's about time he took responsibility!

    Good luck
  • ~Chameleon~
    ~Chameleon~ Posts: 11,956 Forumite
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    Can you not get the marriage annulled?
    “You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time.”
  • TAZ
    TAZ Posts: 222 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    http://www.thesite.org/homelawandmoney/askthesiteqandas/legalandrightsqandas/nullandvoid

    might be worth reading an annulment would be easier for you i would think
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