Simplifying Life - Mark II

ceridwen

mary43 wrote: »

ceridwen - my word you are a 'planner' aren''t you. Wish I was that organised...........its in my head,all the things I ought to do, just getting around to doing them............lol Thats always been my problem.........a thinker not a doer...............thats what my Mum always said.........Dad just called it day dreaming.................lol

:rotfl: ...errr.....welll.....why do you think the phrase about people who "plan to within an inch of their lives" came from? Errrr...guilty as charged:rotfl:

It isnt easy to "switch" that off - as it has been such a beneficial way to be....I dread to think what dire state my finances and health would be in if I hadnt been that way inclined.....but I am well aware that I used to be quite a "daydreamer" when young.....even more aware that what psychic "flashes" I do get come when my mind is in "peaceful neutral" for want of a better phrase.....so would like to feel that way more often. I do know that all the planning in the world doesnt mean one's life will work out as decided...and one can get "help" from "unexpected sources" if able to "turn one's mind off" once in a while. I am so well aware that its not my "planner of the century" temperament that has saved me from things like burglary, certain death, etc - to quote some things that I have been "helped" to avoid before now.

Errr...well..I guess that means this thread is also a "safe haven" for people mentioning inexplicable things that have happened to them in their life....as many of us have had the odd experience of that ..including me..

Charis

mardatha wrote: »

Ceridwen, you are definitely psychic. Or I am. I read a few posts on here this morning and came in looking for a space to rant. There is a distinct lack of compassion around!! We talk of the old days when people stuck together and helped each other out ---well now there are far too many smart butts with NO experience whatsoever of life, just waiting to jump in and mouth off, condescending and patronising.

I think it has something to do with the anonymity of the Internet. And the [strike]assurance[/strike] arrogance of the immature. I was surprised when a retiree chimed in on one thread that he was OK so everyone else should be. How far do you have to look to see elderly couples where one has to stay in to look after the other? Or single people, some older, some in poor health, who just aren't aware of things like the Warm Front Grants? Even when someone comes from the local council to tell you about the grants, most shut ins won't trust a stranger not to be up to some money making mischief.

I think the only answer to all this rudeness is to launch a counter attack. If someone is rude to you online or in person, take time to grump about it because you are only human and need to vent. When you have recovered be nice to two completely different people, for no reason. Even an unexpected smile can change someone's day and they don't cost anything. Better than worry lines too.

ceridwen

Found an article of interest in todays Guardian:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2008/oct/07/brown.economic.policy

Right - now off to get on with my personal bit of dealing with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - shelter/food/fuel/water/healthcare.

The shelter is dealt with - a mortgage-free house to live in and have done everything that absolutely HAS to be done to it.

Water - had a watermeter for a while and been careful with water. Now got a waterbutt - so thats the garden sorted and odd bits that can be used instead of metered water.

Focusing on food at present - so must get myself on to Rocket Gardens and order some food plants. Cant quite see me trying to grow food from seed - not been very successful with that so far - so a package of 4" high microplants sent to me to get on with sounds a better idea for me personally. Think I will get a couple of dual-variety minarette fruit trees as well - so investigating where to get them from at the moment. Read somewheres of one of these trees that is dual plum and almonds (wonder where I can find that one?).

Fuel-wise - done a lot of adjustments there and its making quite a difference. Current project - hoping to find someone who will cut down a spare king-size duvet into a lap quilt or two - right at this moment I've got visions of feathers flying everywhere in the process. Working on that one:cool:

LameWolf

ceridwen wrote: »

Errr...well..I guess that means this thread is also a "safe haven" for people mentioning inexplicable things that have happened to them in their life....as many of us have had the odd experience of that ..including me..

Hi, I usually lurk here; it took me three attempts to get up the courage to post this!:o But Ceridwen's comment struck true with me, I've certainly had a few "inexplicable" things happen over the years.

bertiebots

I hope you dont mind me jumping in here as I have been lurking around the simpletons for a while...hehe;) ....
anyway I just wanted to add I was always in need of quiet as a child. I was sometimes (I pressume) thaught of as a bit of a loner but am happy with my own company (no one to upset/tease etc) maybe out of self preservation as I was bullied all throughout school and beyond.
I am as a result maybe a little more sensative to inexplicable things myself..much to the mirth of family members, my brother nick named me an odd little name partly taken from radar o'riley from m*a*s*h due to my talents.
I am at the moment trying to calm down and be a little less hot headed and more pro active in my thoughts. I am trying to be kinder to myself ,No I am not superwoman and thats ok:rolleyes: and I am also realising that I cannot force people to like me and if they dont thats their problem ...I cant please everyone especially if they dont want to be pleased.
I also like my simple life with my family and need to stop worrying that others might not quite understand that.....

Ok enough waffle from me ...I enjoy reading everyones post and might just add my half pennyworth:D

mardatha

I think the older you get, the less you care what other people think of you. I've never been bullied --my tongue is too sharp for that LOL- but I was very quiet for a very long time. Now I'm just me.:) Weird an all !

Charis

LameWolf wrote: »

Hi, I usually lurk here; it took me three attempts to get up the courage to post this!:o But Ceridwen's comment struck true with me, I've certainly had a few "inexplicable" things happen over the years.

Hi Lame Wolf

Welcome to the most friendly thread on MSE. I was just reading your posts to the young lady with arthritis. Have you seen the original Simplifying Life thread, which had run from last December and got so big they had to close it? Lots of good things on there.

Please keep posting.
Charis

mary43

Hello all - well what a night and day its been !! Simplify it I cant.
Last night WW3 broke out between our two lads - serious agression - managed to control it eventually without confrontation -older one went to bed, younger one stormed out muttering unrepeatable words and crying at the same time, refusing to come back in. (All to do with 'who said what to who involving a girl !!')...............next door neighbours daughter was babysitting her sister, came out to see what the racket was all about (by now curtains twitching across the road - you can imaging the picture).
For 14 this girl is a gem...............she likes out young lad, he likes her and she managed to persuade her to go and sit in her garden and calm down.
Bless her.........it worked and he came back smiling.
Midnight we got to bed !! This morning felt totally washed out but our young lad up with the lark and full of beans (methinks he's derived some sort of pleasure from the drama of previous night). Older lad didn;t got to work -said he felt ill...............but has now gone out ! Meeting this afternoon that seemed to go on and on after which I wondered what was its purpose !
So, thats been my day. But its not all negative - OH's mum may well be home at the weekend and has suggested (quite firmly) that it would be more beneficial for OH to go and see her when she's at home. His case was packed and will stay that way now...........might be going next week or the week after depending on when she decided she wants him...................lol She seems to be calling the shots on this one but he's happy to let her do that just thankful she's recovering.
Mortage free by the end of this month:T so maybe, just maybe, things will get easier on the financial front and it'll rub off on to us and our lifestyle.

mardatha - I'm beginning to think I'll be known as the 'dotty old woman' in our town.............I've long past the stage when I need to impress anyone or am bothered about what they think about me or how I live (apart from my brother but I';m coming to terms with that and thats another story.........lol)
Weird you're not..........one of the joys of maturity.............lol

ceridwen

LameWolf wrote: »

Hi, I usually lurk here; it took me three attempts to get up the courage to post this!:o But Ceridwen's comment struck true with me, I've certainly had a few "inexplicable" things happen over the years.

No need to feel nervous about posting to say that - there must be quite a few of us out there - well, I think statistics indicate a quite noticeable proportion of the population could say the same. I have been somewhat surprised myself how readily people have accepted it when I have said about some episodes that have happened - I thought there would be some sorta "whatever planet does she live on" type reaction....but, nope, it just got accepted by most people. I wont go into details on an open forum - as they would be a bit of an identifying factor for me out theres in t' "real world".;)

The thing I do hold back on is if I realise something about somebody - and want to warn another person who is involved - as I know I just wont be believed.....

ceridwen

MARY

Well some people - of both sexes - are "drama queens" - well another term I would use is "adrenaline junkies". Sounds like your younger lad could be one of them - my sympathies! Their "constant stimulation" is our stress and upset...

Good to hear that your mortgage will be gone at last anyday now....believe me, it is a weight off the shoulders when you get to that position. I've lost count of just how many times I've said to myself "At least I dont have to worry about that any more - its mine, all mine now - totally safe from anything and everything except compulsory purchase - and they'd have to have a death wish to ever try that" (though I know the area I'm in is safe from anything like that in my lifetime). It does free up money for other things. In my case - it also meant that if anything happened to my job then I would be free to even take temporary jobs if I needed to. Whilst I still had a mortgage that wasnt possible - it had to be a proper permanent job or nothing - as the benefits system meant I would be put through a period of not getting all the help I needed with covering my mortgage afresh each time I lost a job. Once you have paid off your mortgage too - then you know for a fact you could never be "at the mercy" of a landlord giving you notice or not giving you a tenancy you had decided to have - you've GOT your roof over your head and thats an end of it.