Problems with access to kids

Chipmunk27

Hi all, just after a little bit of advice.

My partner is divorced from his wife, all got messy and she moved to the other end of the country with the three kids (15, 13, 10). She refused to give him her address, saying he would cause trouble. We are now 2 years on from her leaving, and apparently she has moved again, he has contact with the kids by Court order on a monthly basis, but she is messing about with this too. He is supposed to phone several nights a week, but for the last 10 days has not been able to get through, and understandably having been told she had moved again, he is getting pretty cheesed off with her. Does she have the right to withold the address she is living at - they are HIS children after all. There is no residency order in place, the court pretty much said get on with it, the kids are old enough to decide where they want to live. So, the poisoning goes on.....

Hope someone can suggest something that doesn't mean having to go back to court and cause more animosity....!

Thanks

Savvy_Sue

Does he have mobile phone numbers for any of the children, or their email addresses?

If not, it's back to court, or a private detective?

Chipmunk27

I have a mobile number for his ex (she won't let him have it) and we have a landline, which changed recently. Apparently she has moved in with new man. We have no mobile numbers for the kids despite them all having phones, and no email addresses either. When we meet to pick the kids up it is always somewhere public.
He asked the eldest for their address lat night, she put his ex on and she said to send anything for the kids via her friend! OH said he would take her back to Court, and she has texted her old address through to me, not the new one. OH's friend went round to this address last night, but her car wasn't there.

So frustrating, as we are 2.5 hours drive away, and she seems to be calling all the shots - again!!!!:mad:

notlongnow_2

Hi. For what reas on is she being funny about your OH seeing the children? Is she just being a spiteful old bag or is there another reason? What does she mean by 'he would cause trouble'?

I hope im not speaking out of turn but this was exactly how I wanted to be when I split up with my ex...but didnt because of the kids and im not that spiteful.

My reason being he was an emotional abuser and also a boozer (not in any way saying your OH is any of these things) but my ex was so subtle that I didnt realising it was happening to me until I suddenly got a lightbulb moment.

Also, he was such a manipulating !!!!!!!!ter....also extremely subtle that until you knew him you would see what he was doing. He was everyones best mate...but turned out it was for a reason. He even got himself a new woman who believed everything he said and how awful I was and all the things I had(nt) done and poor him etc etc. But eventually she too realised and left him.

I think its sad when one parent cant see their children but Ive felt like with holding access many times but theres only me who could see what my ex was like at first.

I hope your OH gets things sorted. Does he know which school the children go too? Can he turn up there?

Js_Other_Half

Are the older children on Facebook?

My eldest goddaughter re-established contact with me recently via it.