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jb1964
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Hi,
Bit of a difficult situation but wondered if anyone can help.
Last year a close friend passed away suddenly - 6mths prior to his death he split with his wife. He has for some years now worked away and come home regular.
He died while away with someone he was seeing. After a friend of this lady contacted our friend they agreed to have the funeral there as he intimated she would commit suicide if they didn't agree and that he had been seeing her/living with her for some time now. Our friends had a son who was absolutely torn to pieces by all this but didn't want arguments over anything and agreed.
It has since come to light that he seemed to have been living some sort of double life - and that the whole thing is a complete mess. The lady is now refusing to give the ashes to his children as she 'paid' for the funeral (out of his bank accounts).
He has several bank accounts and several business bank accounts (joint) - where there seems to be some sort of goings on. The solicitors have now been writing back and forth since last Sept and she is still none the wiser.
She's been told that until they have all the documents relating to his estate they can't apply for administration. But this lady is with-holding any information at all. He had vehicles which she is refusing to hand over, she says she has no information about bank accounts - yet he was paying all our friends bills (mortgage/phone etc) and although some of these have been stopped - others have continued for a period and even recently a renewal for something came through paid through his account. Is there a deadline on requesting letter of administration?
He was a bit of a jack the lad where money etc was -and I can imagine he does have things dotted around everywhere - but is there a way to find out anything.
He arranged for my friend to take out a new mortgage in her name only - which she did - to pay off some 'debt' he had so her mortgage is crippling her now - but he had recently taken out a mortgage with this lady for a massive amount and she says she isn't aware of any life assurance etc - although she doesn't work. Would someone be able to take out a massive mortgage without insurance these days - if you were in your early fifties?
He also had some inventions that he mentioned to his son that he'd had patented, is there anyway to find out info for that?
It would really really help if someone could post any advice on what our friend can do - the solicitor seems to be doing nothing - but I'm not even sure what can be done.
Many many thanks,
Jb
Bit of a difficult situation but wondered if anyone can help.
Last year a close friend passed away suddenly - 6mths prior to his death he split with his wife. He has for some years now worked away and come home regular.
He died while away with someone he was seeing. After a friend of this lady contacted our friend they agreed to have the funeral there as he intimated she would commit suicide if they didn't agree and that he had been seeing her/living with her for some time now. Our friends had a son who was absolutely torn to pieces by all this but didn't want arguments over anything and agreed.
It has since come to light that he seemed to have been living some sort of double life - and that the whole thing is a complete mess. The lady is now refusing to give the ashes to his children as she 'paid' for the funeral (out of his bank accounts).
He has several bank accounts and several business bank accounts (joint) - where there seems to be some sort of goings on. The solicitors have now been writing back and forth since last Sept and she is still none the wiser.
She's been told that until they have all the documents relating to his estate they can't apply for administration. But this lady is with-holding any information at all. He had vehicles which she is refusing to hand over, she says she has no information about bank accounts - yet he was paying all our friends bills (mortgage/phone etc) and although some of these have been stopped - others have continued for a period and even recently a renewal for something came through paid through his account. Is there a deadline on requesting letter of administration?
He was a bit of a jack the lad where money etc was -and I can imagine he does have things dotted around everywhere - but is there a way to find out anything.
He arranged for my friend to take out a new mortgage in her name only - which she did - to pay off some 'debt' he had so her mortgage is crippling her now - but he had recently taken out a mortgage with this lady for a massive amount and she says she isn't aware of any life assurance etc - although she doesn't work. Would someone be able to take out a massive mortgage without insurance these days - if you were in your early fifties?
He also had some inventions that he mentioned to his son that he'd had patented, is there anyway to find out info for that?
It would really really help if someone could post any advice on what our friend can do - the solicitor seems to be doing nothing - but I'm not even sure what can be done.
Many many thanks,
Jb
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This ' lady' officially no longer exists. This is getting complicated for no reason.
His wife should just carry on with winding up his estate. All payments to this 'lady' must stop now. Did he leave a will, if he did whatever is in it must be followed. If he didn't this 'lady' does not exist in this situation. If she has a joint mortgage with him she better start paying it herself because he cannot pay it now because he is dead.
She is trying it on, all this could have been good for her but unfortunately for her he died and the good times are now over.Loretta0 -
Many thanks Loretta for your reply.
To be honest I think our friend is fading fast in the saga as it is just going no-where- and I can't understand how the solicitor isn't getting anywhere either. Everyone tells me that it should be cut and dry but it just doesn't seem to be.
The lady involved just keeps answering she doesn't know anything about anything and seems to be changing her solicitor every few months which is just adding more and more time.
I feel so frustrated for her and want to help - but have no answers - he didn't leave a will that we are aware of.
Many thanks once again
Jb0
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