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Sneaky ex stole my house.
lauren_1
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Well i couldn't find another title that suited.
I have a sneaky suspition that the house he moved in to 5 weeks after our daughter was born (7 years ago) was meant to be for me too.
He left 2 days after she was born due to not being able to cope, just so happened that we were assessed for a council house a week prior to him legging it.
I was 16 then and he has always been jobless, hopeless, selfish and a theif. He tried to gain access though the courts and it threw up some quite colourful and sickening info on his cafcass report, luckily dd was born before fathers got automatic PC and the courts prohibited him from coming near us after smashing up my granddads car, attacking me with a large spanner and holding dd over a balcony in a shopping center after pushing her buggy down the escilators:eek:
In the whole process (which he brings up a new attempt every 2 years or when ever csa catch up with him) it came to light that he had another kid a few days older than dd, this kid comes and stays every week end and when cafcass and social services asked for info on this child due to his colourful history of physical abuse he admitted he lied and the baby has no contact with him anymore.
Anyhow my suspicions are still raging away due to the CSA, he owes 3-4k and now is saying he wants it recalculated as dd stays 3 nights a week and the only reason he ignored the letters are because he is illiterate i dont think he should have got the house from the council and i think he may have some forged letters saying dd stays there. How do i go about disprooving it?
Im also wondering how he would get around signing the tenancy agreement but then would he have to sign it as a single as i was under 18 then?
Is it just my mind going in to overdrive
I have a sneaky suspition that the house he moved in to 5 weeks after our daughter was born (7 years ago) was meant to be for me too.
He left 2 days after she was born due to not being able to cope, just so happened that we were assessed for a council house a week prior to him legging it.
I was 16 then and he has always been jobless, hopeless, selfish and a theif. He tried to gain access though the courts and it threw up some quite colourful and sickening info on his cafcass report, luckily dd was born before fathers got automatic PC and the courts prohibited him from coming near us after smashing up my granddads car, attacking me with a large spanner and holding dd over a balcony in a shopping center after pushing her buggy down the escilators:eek:
In the whole process (which he brings up a new attempt every 2 years or when ever csa catch up with him) it came to light that he had another kid a few days older than dd, this kid comes and stays every week end and when cafcass and social services asked for info on this child due to his colourful history of physical abuse he admitted he lied and the baby has no contact with him anymore.
Anyhow my suspicions are still raging away due to the CSA, he owes 3-4k and now is saying he wants it recalculated as dd stays 3 nights a week and the only reason he ignored the letters are because he is illiterate i dont think he should have got the house from the council and i think he may have some forged letters saying dd stays there. How do i go about disprooving it?
Im also wondering how he would get around signing the tenancy agreement but then would he have to sign it as a single as i was under 18 then?
Is it just my mind going in to overdrive
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to be honest love i would just try and forget about it and move on if he is violent and unstable do you really want to get involved in his life again over a council house. All i would do is ring the council and make it known that your daughter does not stay there and leave it at that.I don't get nearly enough credit for not being a violent psychopath.0
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Leave him to it and get on with enjoying your's and your daughters lives.
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