Wedding 'invite' confusion

cobbingstones

Hi all

One of the ladies where my son attends nursery is getting married next week. She is really lovely and we always have a chat etc etc. Today, whilst talking about the soon to be marriage she asked if we where not busy on her wedding day we could pop to the church (15 miles away). Now, forgive my ignorance, but does this mean to wait outside until after the service and see them when they come out? Didn't want to ask her incase I sounded daft!:o

TIA

MM

Sujamjen

I would ask to be absolutely certain but I would assume she means go into the church and see the ceremony.

Staciep88

to me that sounds like your invited to see the ceremony but you should def ask just incase!

dexters_mum_2

I would think that too, that she would like you to go into the church. We had people from the normal congregation in the church when we married, we asked anyone who wanted to attend, to attend, it was their church as well, it was really nice that people came to wish us well and wanted to be part of the day.

tuggy

No idea! i'd be too embarrased to ask I wouldn't go and if she mentions it say your son wasnt well and you were with him or something!

morganb

Definitely go, but if you don't want to ask directly how about couching it in a question like 'Would we be able to take photos during the ceremony' or 'is there a toilet in the church in case little one needs to go during the ceremony!!!' I would however think she means go to watch the ceremony - much more enjoyable than waiting around outside!!

cobbingstones

Thanks all much appreciated. Do I therefore wear clothes I would if invited to the wedding? Would my dh wear his suit and kids all get dressed up? Sorry if I'm being daft long tiring day so far and its only early afternoon!

MM

sooz

madsmum wrote: »

Do I therefore wear clothes ......
MM

YES!

Unless she tells you it's a nudist ceremony.

pamelab21

I would say def go into the church to see her get married. When we got married in church in the village I was brought up in loads of neightbours and church members who were not invited to the wedding came to see and sat up in the upstairs gallery area.
Some of my OHs friends even came to the church and they were invited to the evening only. Its nice to see people there.
I would say smart dress (not jeans and a t-shirt) but not like you are going to the wedding if that makes sense? You are not attending the venue afterwards etc but it is a church after all.

Mojisola

I don't think that you'd have to be all dressed up. If you're not part of the wedding party you wouldn't expect to be in the photos so just nice clothes, not too casual, would be fine.

Mrs_P_Pincher

Sounds to me like she has kindly invited you to come to the church and see them get married, so if you'd like to go - go. You don't have to dress up like you normally would for a wedding - as long as you're clean and tidy you'll be fine.

Although our friends were only invited to the evening do (lunch was family only) several of them turned up at the ceremony and it was great to see them there.

Go - enjoy - everybody loves a wedding.

Mrs P P