Benefits and maintenance??

wendos_2

It makes me so annoyed being a single mother! I always seem to be painted with the same brush as those who sit at home, get all their rent, council tax, water rates paid then get free school meals, legal aid if needed, etc etc. I have always been a working Mum and have never expected every other tax payer to pay for my child while I sit on my bum all day drinking coffee. Saying it is noth worth working financially is a really poor excuse what about going to work to set a good example for your children? My daughter is registered disabled and there are no child carers that are able to care for her needs so this makes it extremely difficult for me to work but I still feel that it is my duty to. My daughter is extremely difficult to bring up and is extremely demanding so I would love to be able to go home after dropping her off at school. I worked it out once and yes I would be no worse off financially if I was out of work but at least this way I can hold my head up high and say I pay for me and my child and I earn my money. As for the CSA - they are crap and I have never received a penny in 10 years - the absent parent has got away from his responsibilities scott free!

lauren_1

kazza1985 wrote: »

Child benefit is a payment that can be claimed by anyone who qualifies, whatever their income and savings.

Don't worry, they can NOT take your CB away from you

It used to be that only married mothers could get it, married couples could then also claim the 'was is now' wftc.

Up until the mid 90's (could be early) child benefit was included in IS amounts which is what kellogs is trying to explain, back then kids were not such a money ticket as they are today.

horza

Child benefit is not deducted from Income Support, so someone on full rate Income support would receive CHB in addition to their IS in the same way that an employed person would.

H

SuziQ

removed following clarification.

wendos_2

SuziQ I think you have got completely the wrong end of the stick as to what I mean. I was replying to an earlier posting that said that single mothers seem to have babies just to be able to get a house and their rent paid-basically a free ride. How can you comment on my post when you wasn't even a single mother then and wasn't claiming benefits? I wasn't talking about people who couldn't work, I was talking about people who won't work and there is a difference. My daughter has Autism as well so I understand completely how hard it is to bring up a child with special needs and she wouldn't have a clue about what looking up to me to set a good example meant so it makes no difference to her whether I work or not and she is also not missing out on me not being around all day as she doesn't have the social need for me to be there. I was talking about single Mum's who don't even want to begin to look for a job not the ones who had to give up work. To be honest the main reason I go to work is it is the only chance I get to have much needed respite and also it's the only real chance I get to have a proper conversation!

SuziQ

wendos wrote: »

SuziQ I think you have got completely the wrong end of the stick as to what I mean. I was replying to an earlier posting that said that single mothers seem to have babies just to be able to get a house and their rent paid-basically a free ride. How can you comment on my post when you wasn't even a single mother then and wasn't claiming benefits? I wasn't talking about people who couldn't work, I was talking about people who won't work and there is a difference. My daughter has Autism as well so I understand completely how hard it is to bring up a child with special needs and she wouldn't have a clue about what looking up to me to set a good example meant so it makes no difference to her whether I work or not and she is also not missing out on me not being around all day as she doesn't have the social need for me to be there. I was talking about single Mum's who don't even want to begin to look for a job not the ones who had to give up work. To be honest the main reason I go to work is it is the only chance I get to have much needed respite and also it's the only real chance I get to have a proper conversation!

Fair enough-sorry I sounded off! I certainly know what you mean by your last sentence too!:rotfl:

wendos_2

You go girl! Have a rant and let it all out!!

Womble8

horza wrote: »

Child benefit is not deducted from Income Support, so someone on full rate Income support would receive CHB in addition to their IS in the same way that an employed person would.

H

I don't know where you are getting your information from but I can tell you as a certainty that Child Benefit is deducted from Income Support. So Diana may have got Child Benefit but that is really irrelevant...unless she was claiming I.S on the quiet!
To someone else that mentioned £426 a week after rent and council tax, I don't know where this figure came from either but I was not speaking about 2 parent families. The point seems to me to be that a single parent has to choose between being a provider and a carer, but the second option means depending on benefits unless you're very lucky. I don't think that any parent who does their job properly is sitting around all day watching TV and drinking coffee, lucky if they've got time for to go to the loo in peace!
Water Rates by the way are not paid for those on Benefits.
I do think men that start families should then be liable to an extent for the massive expenses that those children incur. Their actions should have consequences as well!
Childcare has only recently begun to be paid for by the state, before that the opportunity to work, for those on their own with young children, was out of reach financially.
On top of all this, many parents do not like the idea of childcare being handed over to strangers who in many cases are very inexperienced and cannot provide their child with the same kind of loving, stimulating first years as they could, for them, themselves. This did actually used to be considered as a job!
As for whatever it says in the papers , well, it's pretty much all lies isn't it?

Womble8

Also to JPMummy , you say you have never claimed ANYTHING off the state, but infact your child's education and healthcare are paid for collectively by the taxes of those who have children AND those who don't. There are some childless people out there that disagree with paying for those expenses too!
My sister lives abroad and has to pay for all her child's education and healthcare, it is just something that we have learned to take for granted in the UK. So I think it's more a question of where we draw the line.

glitterstar

Elle83 wrote: »

Yes this is correct.

Please don't take the maintenance cash in hand because firstly, it really winds people, who like me do things the right way, totally up. Secondly it's benefit fraud and you could be liable for criminal proceedings. I know you've not suggested you'd consider doing that, I'm just saying it because I know a lot of people who've done it.

How is it benefit fraud for taking maintenance cash in hand? The lone parent advisor at the job center advised me to do this and sort out maintenance myself with my ex if it was possible instead of going through the hassle of CSA, surely someone at the job center would not advise someone to do this if it meant that they would be committing benefit fraud???