At my wit's end - really dont know what to do!

foxyd3vil12

I am sitting here writing this and am so confused and angry that i dont know what to do.

to cut a long stort short, i got married at 19, had a kid straight after and marriage went down hill from there. husband was constantly gambling and drinking and getting himself into debt and we were constantly arguing. i paid for everything in our rented home and we were nearly evicted if it wasnt for me temping for a few weeks where basically all my pay went towards the debt. i put up with this for nearly 2 years til 2006. Instead of sorting out the problems, i got close to another guy and ending up leaving my husband for him. obviously i know this wasnt the best idea but this guy saved me from doing some really stupid things. in the end, things didnt work out with this guy so went back to the marriage. hubby said things would change.

now 1 1/2 on, things r still pretty much the same. he still goes out whenever he feels like it, still gambles and still feels as if he doesnt have 2 pay a penny towards the bills. our son is now 3 and he wants 2 see his dad but dad is more interested in other things. how do you tell a child of 3 his father enjoys the bookies and pub more? have struggled this year a bit due to me starting a course in university and even though i had very little help from hubby, i still managed to pass the year which im pleased about. i just want 2 give my son a good life and i just want my hubby 2 care.

help!!!!!!!!!

Zara33

Stop mothering him! make him choose.

oystercatcher

I think you know the answer. You'd be better off on your own and in control.

See if he'll try relate or similar first.

good luck

Oystercatcher

Welshlassie

If your hubby doesn't want to care you can't make him.

You have to make a decision, you have put up with this for 4+ years you will only damage yourself and your son if you continue in this relationship without changes. Conselling is an option but he has to take it seriously and want to change for the better, if not then you have survived paying everything all these years you can leave and survive and pay everything yourself going forward.

This_is_me_2

If you are able to support yourself and your son why do you need him He offers you neither financial or emotional support - is it really worth wasting any more time on him? Does you son need a role model like him in his life when he is getting old enough to be influenced. I know it must be hard to think about being alone but basically you are already because although he is around he offers you nothing.

RAMBLER

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