very picky eater

Curry_Queen

I don't know whether this has been mentioned before, but some children (and adults) that are on the Autistic Spectrum (autism, aspergers and numerous other similar conditions) often have difficulty with some foods because of taste and texture, and invariably have some rather strange diets and eating habits!

I'm not saying this is the reason your OH is fussy, or anyone else with picky eaters, but often these conditions can be so mild that they go undiagnosed for a lifetime and may well be a contributing factor in picky eaters, so it's certainly something to bear in mind.

emma_b_4

katgodess, thanks for the ideas, he will drink orange....without the bits!!! he will take vits if they are tasteless and odourless.
he actually saw me put the courgette and muhrooms and onions in his curry, AND SAID IT TASTED BETTER!!!!!as long as he didnt have to see them or eat lumpy bits ???!!!!

i think parents play a huge role in developing their children's eating habits. maybe its not his mum and dads 'fault' as such but they are responsible for some of the blame, i think. in my house, if we wanted extra beef, roasts, yorkshire puds (the best bits of sunday lunch!) we would have to eat, or at least try, our veg. and i like evrything now, yes i dont like fat on meat but ill just cut it off, simple as. i remeber watching my mum do exactly the same,.. at his house, he didnt even have to have them on his plate!!!so he soon learnt and thought whats the point of eating the veg ill just skip that and eat the best bits.
also, if he doesnt like what i am cooking he will just say 'no thanks ' and make a bacon butty.........guess what his mum used to say..'do you want this for your tea? no you dont like the look of it, ok ill make you a bacon sandwich' hmm i see a link!
i work with children from age 0-5, have done for the last 5years. they develop ther eating habits young. you need to encourage them to try new things, taste, textures etc they go for what they recognise, whats familiar and what they know they will like.

in a nursery setting children are encouraged to try even a spoonful of somehting and will do this b4 moving ontop something that they want, not in a cruel way, they do get to eat!! but 9 times out of ten they will try it and like it. children also watch each other eat, their peers, parents, anyone and copy them and what they are doing. its how we learn what is acceptable behaviour. OH and brother teamed up to say NO were not eating THAT ughhhther parents should have matched it with yes you are, cmon lets sit down and at least try it. instead of okay then, lets throw it away and make you a pizza

did any1 see the supernanny where she encouraged that little boy who wouldnt eat anything? by the end of the month, he was growing tomatoes or something and saying ' this week ive tried 20 new things and liked them all'
im not saying i agree with everything supernanny does, i was a nanny myself and wouldnt use some of the tactics, but im using that example to illustrate my point.

filigree_2

He's the one with the problem but you're the only one who seems to be worried about it - there's something wrong with that picture! If he is content with his weird diet then let him get on with it.

Funnily enough I was talking to a friend last night - she and her boyfriend eat separately. She is trying hard to eat very healthily while he would cheerfully eat nothing but pizza and chips. She doesn't want to compromise her own health by sharing his habits, and with a demanding job she has better things to do with her time than persuade a 24 year old man to eat his greens! He's an intelligent bloke who knows he should eat better but chooses to eat junk - his health is his own responsibility.

Personally I would just cook sensible meals that I enjoy. If he likes it then dish up a portion but otherwise he can phone for pizza.

purplegirluk1

Rikki wrote:

His restaurant habits sound worse than a vegeterian friend I once new. She wouldn't eat anything if it had been near meat.

What is so weird about that? I do not eat meat and I would NEVER eat anything that has been near meat. I won't eat food served with tongs or spoons have been used for meat, its not being fussy its a choice.

I am very fussy about bits in food though and I think this has come from primary school where I was pressured every day to eat food that I thought was uncooked, poor quality or just something I did not like. I would actually be sick in the dinner hall most days due to being force fed and I was ALWAYS the last to leave the hall. From this I learnt to avoid anything with a weird texture and it has taken me a very long time to over come my fears. I am getting better but this is mainly due to health as I have CFS and need to eat a good diet.

emma_b_4

yes i think your right, but im worried about his health as i said im training to be a nurse and i cringe when i think of the rubbish he eats (and stays slim arrrrrrr!!!) i just wanted some ideas OS
his health is his responsibility, sometimes i thkin at least he is consistent with what he eats so his body is used to it, unlike mine, i go on helath fits and starts where im all smoothied out then have a week off and raid the fridge!!
and i personally wont eat things that have been nr raw menat and havent been cooked, or use utensils that have been used for raw meat, thats hygiene resons though isnt it, im digressing sorry

i have really enjoyed this post though, would like to thank everyone for their input THANKYOU

Cullumpster

Hi emma :hello:

Well i wwas looking at the main forum menu and held my mouse over this thread and had to have a look as i don't remember starting this thread and what do i find ??
THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE LIKE ME :j

My b/f is exactly the same if not (Dare i say it ) worse :mad:

He will eat potatoes, and tinned processed peas - that's his veggie intake oh and he's quite partial to red onion now.

He will eat Chicken and Beef - thants it, if i even try and make him eat anything else he gags :wall:

His idea of a snack is a family sized bag of dry roasted peanuts which he will happily polish off in 10 mins and then start on the big bags of walkers (You know them temptations ones)

I've gotten to the point where i leave him to it now, his children are fantastic eaters which is good so they eat anything when they come and stay with us.

Oh and bones are a no no - queue the big reathing noises when he walks into the kitchen and i'm carving the chicken :mad: doesn't stop him from eating the !!!!!! though.

My advise is to keep doing what your doing emma, my b/f is a fussy git and nothing is going to change that, he does however think along the same lines as your b/f i can put in spag bol as many veggies as i like as long as there are no lumps, and he loves my HM veggie soup, i just think he needs training into different tastes.

Good luck though, i know as well as you do that yo may as well just do this > :wall: all day every day.


HTH

emma_b_4

YEY!!! im not alone!!!
OH idea of a meal is bacon butty, bag of crisps, bowl of icecream, etc.
a 'good' snack he thinks is to make a crisp sandwich!!!

hehe have to laugh sometimes though dont you?! ive decided to cook more during the day when hes at work, im gonna sneak what i can inside him then at the end of the week tell him what hes eaten

Cullumpster

Does you b/f do the 'Don't like it' thing before he's even tried anything ?

I just show mine something and he says it :mad: JUST TRY IT FOR GODS SAKE :mad:

Jet

I agree with Filigrees post.

He's a grown man who makes his own decisions - right or wrong. It's not your problem.

If you do have children together, what will you do cook separate meals for the kids, for you and for him? Some people do and I think they're mad!

As I do all the cooking in my house, if anyone doesn't like it, they don't have to eat it... but I am not wasting my time and energy cooking something else. They go hungry. This applies to my partner my son and my step children (who are very fussy). They know the rules and 99.9% everything is eaten. But if they had the choice they would all eat burger and chips every night!

Cullumpster

I've tried this Jet, and it does work sort of, but most of the time my b/f will get up and make himself burger & chips or something just as healthy.

I don't mind that but i do mind the fact that i've made a nice dinner for him and it will go to waste and he is using twice as much of our weekly food budget.

Sorry folks rant over