Custody Of Kids.....help

slick-chic85

Hi peeps,

My best mates wife has taken the kids and done one:eek::eek:.....There is two children involved a 7 year old (boy) and a 3 year old (girl). The children till now have lived with both parents in the fathers family home (with grandparents, aunts, uncles etc). The mother has taken the kids to her family home. How can my friend go about getting custody for both or even one child?? What are the chances of father getting custody?? And what is the best way to go about this?

Plz Help Your replies will be most appreciated. Ta :beer::beer:

CB1979_2

need more details of the circumstances,

however suffice to say if the kids ain't in danger then they'll no doubt have to stay with mum.

i would think long and hard about trying to split the kids up between the 2 homes to be honest.

tanith

Your friend really should go and get legal advice... but in the mean time maybe he could come to some agreement with his wife about seeing his children? .... these things are never easy and a court will always look at the best arrangements for the children not the parents.. it certainly is not the road to go down to try to get custody of just one child for goodness sake..
If he and his wife are not on speaking terms then he will have to go to court to get access to the children on a temporary basis he is at least entitled to put his case forward , a judge will decide whats appropriate.. if your friend is not working he might get legal aid..

Scarlett1

slick-chic85 wrote: »

Hi peeps,

My best mates wife has taken the kids and done one:eek::eek:.....There is two children involved a 7 year old (boy) and a 3 year old (girl). The children till now have lived with both parents in the fathers family home (with grandparents, aunts, uncles etc). The mother has taken the kids to her family home. How can my friend go about getting custody for both or even one child?? What are the chances of father getting custody?? And what is the best way to go about this?

Plz Help Your replies will be most appreciated. Ta :beer::beer:

Is there any chance of your friend trying to make a go of the relationship rather than fighting for custody and seperating two children ? those living arrangements sound awful and could have been a factor in your friend's ex leaving with the children, why did they not have their own home ?

Oldernotwiser

Scarlett1 wrote: »

Is there any chance of your friend trying to make a go of the relationship rather than fighting for custody and seperating two children ? those living arrangements sound awful and could have been a factor in your friend's ex leaving with the children, why did they not have their own home ?

These living arrangements are completely normal in many cultures so I don't think that you should make those sort of negative comments just because it wouldn't suit you.

belfastgirl23

Could they try family mediation to sort out these issues?

wendb69

This is important.

Firstly are they married?

Secondly, is there any reason to suggest that this woman is a bad mother? Unless this is proved otherwise its very unlikely in court that she would have the children taken from her. The courts look at what is best for the children - not what is best for the parent.

Thirdly, if your friend wishes to go for Residency then it may well have to go through court. CAFCASS meetings will probably take place and their recommendations will be sent to the courts.

Lastly - is your friend in a position to look after these children all the time? Often its a power struggle (I know - I have been on the end of a bitter father) and if you look closer at the reality of things, your friend might even realise that long term he may not be able to cope as a single dad (maybe because of work etc).